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Well I think that if guests can afford it, they should roughly cover per person cost of the event and then leave a bit more for the actual gift. But then I only went to the weddings of the friends or family members who I've know for years and cared about. I would feel different if this was someone I know casually.
But I agree that it is absolutely tacky for the hosts to discuss the gifts they received and complain if someone did not pay enough...
I have to admit to being curious about this thought process. Please explain.
If you attend a dinner party, do you also bring a hostess gift/wine based on the amount you think the host has spent on your "plate" for the evening?
Well I think that if guests can afford it, they should roughly cover per person cost of the event and then leave a bit more for the actual gift. But then I only went to the weddings of the friends or family members who I've know for years and cared about. I would feel different if this was someone I know casually.
But I agree that it is absolutely tacky for the hosts to discuss the gifts they received and complain if someone did not pay enough...
First, how can possibly know how much they spent on the event? And, secondly, why should it effect how much you give if the bride and groom plan a platinum wedding?
Although, I bet that niece's wedding would have cost $100,000 (not just the food) in today's dollars for 100 people. I certainly do not think most couples should be expected to give a $2,000 plus wedding gift. Yikes!
Her brother's wedding probably cost about $20,000. Does that mean that his wedding gift should be $400 for a couple?
BTW, dividing the cost of the wedding by the number of guests is completely different than the cost per plate of food. Does that mean that I should give a bigger gift to the bride that buys a $10,000 wedding dress vs. one who wears her mother's wedding dress?
First, how can possibly know how much they spent on the event? And, secondly, why should it effect how much you give if the bride and groom plan a platinum wedding?
Although, I bet that niece's wedding would have cost $100,000 (not just the food) in today's dollars for 100 people. I certainly do not think most couples should be expected to give a $2,000 plus wedding gift. Yikes!
Her brother's wedding probably cost about $20,000. Does that mean that his wedding gift should be $400 for a couple?
BTW, dividing the cost of the wedding by the number of guests is completely different than the cost per plate of food. Does that mean that I should give a bigger gift to the bride that buys a $10,000 wedding dress vs. one who wears her mother's wedding dress?
The venue is only one part of the event.
There is the food, the booze, the band, the decorations, the flowers, the favors....
true. but if someone has a backyard bbq or a small dinner party you know it's less expensive than a 150 person wedding at a large catering hall/venue.
i would still give the same sized gift though.... but for some reason i do feel the need to give extra if i bring a date because it's an extra person. but i understand the argument not to as well.
Thank God I'm not good enough for my friends or whoever to invite me to their wedding. I will soon be 30yrs old and haven't been invited to any wedding yet
Seriously, I have always based what I give on what I can afford, and how well I know the couple.
I personally think that the huge, costly wedding trends of the last decades has gotten ridiculous.
I had a perfectly lovely church wedding and luncheon which cost approximately $2000 back in 1990, and that included my dress.
Seriously, I have always based what I give on what I can afford, and how well I know the couple.
I personally think that the huge, costly wedding trends of the last decades has gotten ridiculous.
I had a perfectly lovely church wedding and luncheon which cost approximately $2000 back in 1990, and that included my dress.
I will be spending over $100 on childcare just to attend an upcoming wedding (no kids allowed at wedding). And I already spent $48 on the gift. So I won't be spending any thing more on this.
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