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$100 travel (gas, tolls, etc. and we'll completely ignore if you have to fly)
$200 hotel (2 nights if you have to travel out of town)
$100 gift ($200 if you bring someone else)
$100 miscellaneous (suit cleaning, spend on lunch outside that won't be covered in wedding plans, child care/pet care)
I really regret being invited to 5 weddings this year, but will end up feeling like a total d**che if I don't attend. Can't believe I'm going to blow over $1500 on stupid weddings this year.
Oh yeah, $500 for a wedding also assumes you're not even in the wedding party, to which you can add the expense of tux, bachelor party, etc.
It depends on the class and relationship you have with the people involved in the wedding. I have been to a few weddings, due to part of my family being sort of redneck, where only the people involved in the wedding party wore suits, the rest of the guests wore a nice pair of slacks and button up shirt, ties were optional, and almost no one had a jacket or sport coat.
That's a lot of weddings to be invited to, but when people make wedding invitations they usually invite practically everyone they know. Unless it's a very close family member, friend, or close relative, I don't think they would be too stumped if you said you couldn't make it.
I'm so far removed from my family, over 800 miles in every direction that I don't get to attend a lot of the regular events. I wish I was closer though so I could be more involved in these events.
We went to a wedding last year and had to drive 7 hours and then stayed on the island in a condo like place, then all the food, and nothing was cheap.
SO went to one about a year and a half ago and had to fly from Virginia to Oklahoma and had the hotel costs, etc for about 5 days.
He said when we get married he wants to get married far away so all the people who caused him to have to travel and spend so much money can get it back....funny
I have 6 friends getting married this year and I'll probably be receiving invitations to 5 of their weddings. I probably won't go to any of them because I simply can't justify the expense of flying across the country for a few days. I mean, don't get me wrong...they're great people and all but I know for a fact at least 3 of them are only doing the big ceremony thing to get presents and whatnot. I'll see most of them over the Thanksgiving holiday when I go back home to visit so I'll say my congratulations then.
I will, however, go to my best friends two weddings next year and it will be a blasty blast!
If I ever get married, I won't be having a ceremony and *might* have a reception or two. I won't expect anyone to go out of their way for it nor will I demand presents or money.
This was a topic on the morning show yesterday on Virgin Radio in Toronto. I only caught part of it but one girl is going to 8 weddings this year, 2 are destination weddings, and she's lowballed the cost at $6,000 so far, but likely higher with the destination expenses. Another guy is going to 13 weddings this year, in 2 of them, and he estimated his gift alone at $150 per wedding, not including all associated expenses with being part of the wedding parties.
It's not cheap on either side, either having the wedding or going to it, but I still think people should be grateful for those that can attend, not take it personally if your day isn't in someone's budget, and appreciate whatever they're given for a gift.
This was a topic on the morning show yesterday on Virgin Radio in Toronto. I only caught part of it but one girl is going to 8 weddings this year, 2 are destination weddings, and she's lowballed the cost at $6,000 so far, but likely higher with the destination expenses. Another guy is going to 13 weddings this year, in 2 of them, and he estimated his gift alone at $150 per wedding, not including all associated expenses with being part of the wedding parties.
It's not cheap on either side, either having the wedding or going to it, but I still think people should be grateful for those that can attend, not take it personally if your day isn't in someone's budget, and appreciate whatever they're given for a gift.
Wow! I'd have to decline invitations for some of those. The most weddings I've been invited to in one year is 3. I went to all 3 but I only had to book a flight for one of them.
I really regret being invited to 5 weddings this year, but will end up feeling like a total d**che if I don't attend. Can't believe I'm going to blow over $1500 on stupid weddings this year.
If I found out that you were complaining because I invited you to my "stupid wedding", I would regret having included you. Why don't you just make up some "stupid" excuses and stay home? No need to feel like a D-bag at all.
Ugh, they can be very expensive! Our best friends got married last year, and my fiance was the best man. It was incredible, how much it cost! April: shower, bachorelette & bachelor parties. May: Wedding: cost of gift, dress, tux rental, room.
The groom got my fiance a best man 'gift'...he bought us tickets for a cruise! Unfortunately, it left out of Florida, and the only thing he paid for was the tickets. The trip ended up costing us twice what he paid for the tickets.
This year, a friend of mine invited us to her wedding, but it was in key west. Sounded like fun, but after the cost of airfair, hotel, gift...we just couldn't do it again. I respectfully declined.
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