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I have coeliac disease and simply can't eat gluten as it will poison me so I agree with the bride here, but they were rude, I would not have been as rude and would have said "it was a very nice gesture to buy this but I cannot eat it sorry".
I have coeliac disease and simply can't eat gluten as it will poison me so I agree with the bride here, but they were rude, I would not have been as rude and would have said "it was a very nice gesture to buy this but I cannot eat it sorry".
IMO, that is still pretty rude. Maybe it's because I'm Southern, but even if you can't eat it, just smile and say thank you. No need to make the gift giver feel bad.
IMO, that is still pretty rude. Maybe it's because I'm Southern, but even if you can't eat it, just smile and say thank you. No need to make the gift giver feel bad.
I remember being taught that from a very young age. My mother always told me to say thank you, because it was nice of someone to buy me a gift. It was never appropriate to tell the giver that you didn't like it, or if you already had one of what they bought, because no one had to buy me anything.
I have coeliac disease and simply can't eat gluten as it will poison me so I agree with the bride here, but they were rude, I would not have been as rude and would have said "it was a very nice gesture to buy this but I cannot eat it sorry".
Why is it necessary to say you wouldn't eat it? I think if you are close with the gift giver you can find another opportunity to identify the fact you don't consume gluten...a wedding gift is not the time.
When I got married we received a food themed basket with a lot of chocolate type items in it. Call me unsophisticated by I'm not a big chocolate eater outside of Hershey's kisses.
Most of the items we never ate. Identifying the basket as full of items I didn't like, would not have been worth it. Why cause that drama?
I'm just glad none of you will be invited to my wedding because it is the height of rudeness not to give anything to the bride and groom.Sending the gift or money to the home is fine but not giving a gift tells me that person doesn't care enough to give a gift. I bet most of you are the same people who show up empty handed at birthday parties too. I would never think of showing up without a gift of some sort.
We are also glad we will not be attending your cash bar, dollar dance, potluck affair.
And, there is a HUGE difference between an event at which a gift is expected, such as a shower or birthday party, and an event where bringing the gift is actually considered a minor breech of etiquette.
As for showing up with a gift...I am sure the bride and groom will be thrilled that they have to figure out what to do with your gift when you so ungraciously drag it to the wedding.
Lets say you already got them a present off the registry for the bridal shower... would you get them another gift for the wedding? Or just money (and if so, how much)?
If I have already given the couple a gift at the shower, I generally send a card to the home right before the wedding but I do not give an additional gift.
IMO, that is still pretty rude. Maybe it's because I'm Southern, but even if you can't eat it, just smile and say thank you. No need to make the gift giver feel bad.
Well I disagree that that should make the giver feel bad. It is a statement of fact. If they don't know you can't eat it, on a future occasion they might offer you something which you also can't eat and it will be a waste of their money. It's quite over sensitive to consider it rude to inform people you have a condition that means you can't eat it. There is a way to let somebody know the truth without being rude, and you can still be thankful to them, no problem. I just think honesty is the best policy. It could be just a culture thing as you say then, because at least over here we tend to be more upfront about these things and people don't get offended by it or not in my experience. People are quite self deprecating in England anyway.
Well I disagree that that should make the giver feel bad. It is a statement of fact. If they don't know you can't eat it, on a future occasion they might offer you something which you also can't eat and it will be a waste of their money. It's quite over sensitive and a bit petty to consider it rude to inform people you have a condition that means you can't eat it. There is a way to let somebody know the truth without being rude, and you can still be thankful to them, no problem.
The thank you note is not the time to do that. The point of a thank you note is to graciously thank the giver for their thought and generosity -regardless of the gift. Details on your health or preferences can be expressed at a later date if necessary.
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