Working with miserable people (jobs, company, pay, claim)
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My sister called me today, almost in tears. She works in a school kitchen as a lunch lady. I admire the fact she does this despite the low, low pay and having 4 children of her own to deal with/take care of.
Well, she is so upset by the people, most of whom sound very jealous of her upbeat attitude and hard work. Every day she says the environment gets more toxic. She works with a lot of older people who have been there for 20 or more years, have a negative reaction to EVERYTHING, and constantly have nasty remarks to each other and the kids.
Why do people have to go out of their way to be miserable? Even the worst, most mundane jobs can be okay if you work with upbeat, friendly or just decent minded folks. Your coworkers can really screw up your day.
I ask all of you who hate work to remember that your lousy 'snappy attitudes' and misery is toxic to people who may not see life as full of **** like you do!
If you are 'stuck' doing the same job year after year, take it out on yourself, not the people around you. Times are tough for everyone. Suck it up and go home and punch a pillow or something. Cutting down your coworkers because you are a miserable crone only shows how much of a loser you really, really are!
I can't stand working with miserable people. Unfortunately, sometimes it can't be avoided. Good for her for keeping up a positive attitude. It might be hard, but if she doesn't, she'll turn into one of them.
My sister called me today, almost in tears. She works in a school kitchen as a lunch lady. I admire the fact she does this despite the low, low pay and having 4 children of her own to deal with/take care of.
Well, she is so upset by the people, most of whom sound very jealous of her upbeat attitude and hard work. Every day she says the environment gets more toxic. She works with a lot of older people who have been there for 20 or more years, have a negative reaction to EVERYTHING, and constantly have nasty remarks to each other and the kids.
Why do people have to go out of their way to be miserable? Even the worst, most mundane jobs can be okay if you work with upbeat, friendly or just decent minded folks. Your coworkers can really screw up your day.
I ask all of you who hate work to remember that your lousy 'snappy attitudes' and misery is toxic to people who may not see life as full of **** like you do!
If you are 'stuck' doing the same job year after year, take it out on yourself, not the people around you. Times are tough for everyone. Suck it up and go home and punch a pillow or something. Cutting down your coworkers because you are a miserable crone only shows how much of a loser you really, really are!
Stands and applauds Every day on the right side of the grass is a good one.
Thanks you guys. I am so angry for her. She works hard and is nice and pleasant to the kids and these old bags are making her life hellish.
One told her she had a 'big mouth' when she only asked for some help with her job and another just bosses her around (although she is not the supervisor). They are all petty and backbiting (imagine working with ALL women).
I think they are jealous my sister is pleasant and the kids like her. I know if I was a parent in that school and workers were snapping at my kid I would make an issue out of it!
Well, you know what they say, 'it's easier to cut down other people than focus on your own issues.'
It doesn't take many negitive people to bring everybody down, a couple of the guys I work with gripe and complain all the time, I always tell them they should go find a new job. We went through a company buy out a while back, the new company planned on hiring everyone, we had a big meeting where they went over benifits and one emplyee just kept on complaining, he was asked to stop but he continued, he didn't get hired because of his negitive attitude and i've wondered if he realizes his 20 years of complaining cost him a good job which he will find difficult to find another.
hats off to your sister for keeping a good attitude.
I can't stand working with miserable people. Unfortunately, sometimes it can't be avoided. Good for her for keeping up a positive attitude. It might be hard, but if she doesn't, she'll turn into one of them.
I second the last sentence. They will tear you down...and build you back up to be as miserable as they are, if you let them. I have one lady at my work who takes it upon herself to stir the pot (with me inside) at least once a month. If she skips a month, I sit and wonder "Did the novelty of embarrassing/patronizing me wear off"? And alas, as that very thought flutters through my mind, the daggers fly through the air towards my face. IMHO I find that women are especially prone to such treatment. The OP mentioned it was her sister and that she was much younger than the other ladies. It is quite possible they are just jealous of her youth and spirited attitude towards life. It really is sad how miserable some people are. What is doubly crappy is when you are married to someone whose sister is not only a miserable person, but is also your co-worker. Cheers
I just have to add that the majority of people have so much to be grateful for. If you don't think so, take some time to volunteer at a Children's Hospital, Hospice, or a local Cancer Center. You will quickly realize you have so much to be thankful for and you may even leave with a new appreciation/ zest for life. I leave feeling guilty....
Thanks you guys. I am so angry for her. She works hard and is nice and pleasant to the kids and these old bags are making her life hellish.
One told her she had a 'big mouth' when she only asked for some help with her job and another just bosses her around (although she is not the supervisor). They are all petty and backbiting (imagine working with ALL women).
I think they are jealous my sister is pleasant and the kids like her. I know if I was a parent in that school and workers were snapping at my kid I would make an issue out of it!
Well, you know what they say, 'it's easier to cut down other people than focus on your own issues.'
I know what you mean when you say working with ALL women team. Its very difficult. I have been going through this for 4 months now. But good thing is that I learnt to do my work alone, get the work done by the team and then go home. Yes, it does get lonely but dont worry. I am sure your sister will get used to it (like I did) soon or will learn a way to deal with this situation.
Gypsy, I feel for her. You said it!
They are resentful enough when you have a positive attitude, and stoop to even lower lows when you're younger (God forbid in a little better shape), too.
It's jealousy and misery loves company syndrome.
I went through years of dealing with catty, backstabbing women and finally woke up and seeked jobs with a larger (if not all) male influence. Boy did it make a wonderful difference! I'm female, but refuse to get into the petty gossip stuff, thus had usually, quickly, alienated most female co-workers anyway.
If she keeps positive, maybe seeking a job where she can work more independently and/or with more males, can be her goal to shoot for. Good luck to her. I've been there. I'd still have a decent job right now had it not been for insecure females (one an assistant mgr) who "took issue" with all the compliments I was receiving there from the (clientele.) Sad Fact: They just can't handle people who are likeable and who (in their insecure minds) "threaten" their security.
One woman finally stopped her shenanigans with me when I got mad at a boss one day and exclaimed what a dolt they were being. This lady was, all of a sudden, my best friend! All it took was to badmouth somebody -- anybody -- when all the kindness towards her in the past could never phase her. Hope your sister gets out of that toxic mess soon.
Sorry to hear about what has happened. S**** them! It's always good to see an upbeat person especially if children are around.
I'm glad my job goes by the motto "Fast, Friendly, and FUN!" Our job only hires people who are positive and upbeat and will never take someone with an ounce of negativity in them. She would be hired in a heartbeat I'm sure but then again; it's retail .
Hope everything gets better from here.
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