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Old 08-20-2018, 05:59 PM
 
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So I'm quite young so I haven't had the pleasure of traveling since I'm saving up money for school, and I hope one day to spend a month in Japan. So in the meantime I like to learn about each of the cultures quite equally. And I thought "hey, I'm pretty anti-social but if I join a penpal website I can talk to people from these cultures" and it's been very eye opening. It's easy to see what a culture is like but to talk to people from there, to see how they act, can definitely impact someone. And I'd say after quite a bit of talking online, my love for Japan has declined slightly whereas my interest in Chinese and Korean culture has risen.



I found that it was very difficult to establish a connection with the Japanese girls I've talked to. They are very polite, and can hold a decent conversation, but generally most of the conversations I had with them were cold, with one exception - We talked quite well and even met in person, she showed a lot of interest (quite a bit of touching), but that went south very quickly, very disapointed.



Compare that to the Chinese and Korean girls I talked to, which was vastly more carefree. Most of the ones I talked to had an interest in cooking, as do I, and were more than willing to talk and have long conversations with me. In fact I made a best friend on there from China, probably the nicest and coolest person I've ever met. Even when I was rejected irl by a Chinese girl, they still managed to be very warm afterwards.



I really want to dive into Japanese culture more, since I really love it and it speaks to me like no other one does, but I can't really shake the feeling that I was a bit let down. However now I'm a lot more interested in China and Korea as a result.



These are just my naive thoughts. Maybe one day when I visit and live in each respective country, my opinion will change.



Anyone with similar opinions? Anyone disagree?
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Old 08-20-2018, 07:57 PM
 
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Old 08-20-2018, 08:05 PM
 
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Chinese and Koreans are much more talkative than Japanese, on average.
That said, I feel Japanese girls overseas are mostly very extrovert.
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Old 08-20-2018, 09:05 PM
 
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Old 08-21-2018, 01:36 AM
 
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Default naive is the operative word here...

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So I'm quite young so I haven't had the pleasure of traveling since I'm saving up money for school, and I hope one day to spend a month in Japan. So in the meantime I like to learn about each of the cultures quite equally. And I thought "hey, I'm pretty anti-social but if I join a penpal website I can talk to people from these cultures" and it's been very eye opening. It's easy to see what a culture is like but to talk to people from there, to see how they act, can definitely impact someone. And I'd say after quite a bit of talking online, my love for Japan has declined slightly whereas my interest in Chinese and Korean culture has risen.



I found that it was very difficult to establish a connection with the Japanese girls I've talked to. They are very polite, and can hold a decent conversation, but generally most of the conversations I had with them were cold, with one exception - We talked quite well and even met in person, she showed a lot of interest (quite a bit of touching), but that went south very quickly, very disapointed.



Compare that to the Chinese and Korean girls I talked to, which was vastly more carefree. Most of the ones I talked to had an interest in cooking, as do I, and were more than willing to talk and have long conversations with me. In fact I made a best friend on there from China, probably the nicest and coolest person I've ever met. Even when I was rejected irl by a Chinese girl, they still managed to be very warm afterwards.



I really want to dive into Japanese culture more, since I really love it and it speaks to me like no other one does, but I can't really shake the feeling that I was a bit let down. However now I'm a lot more interested in China and Korea as a result.



These are just my naive thoughts. Maybe one day when I visit and live in each respective country, my opinion will change.



Anyone with similar opinions? Anyone disagree?
You cannot possibly know a culture very well by such online contacts. You're not dealing with the general populace which can be quite different than those you meet online. Japanese girls are not noted for their outgoing affections. All younger women below 25 are increasingly Westernized, so you won't find a big difference in their attitudes toward you. A big problem will be the language barriers. They will not accept you fully until you speak their language and even then maybe not.
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Old 08-21-2018, 02:25 AM
 
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Japanese are not comfortable with English at all. Plus, they are dictated by social conventions on how to behave in most situations. They'll hide their emotions/feelings, in favor of saying what they believe they should be saying.

Koreans and Chinese say whatever is in their head.
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Old 08-21-2018, 05:41 AM
 
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I say put this drivel in the Relationships forum. Don't need a wet behind the ears boy trying to sum up Asian women.
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Old 08-21-2018, 05:42 AM
 
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I say put this drivel in the Relationships forum. Don't need a wet behind the ears boy trying to sum up Asian women.
I agree.
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Old 08-21-2018, 06:30 AM
 
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I say put this drivel in the Relationships forum. Don't need a wet behind the ears boy trying to sum up Asian women.

It quite possibly is drivel, I posted to this provoke a discussion. And I don't see why it should go there, my thoughts aren't based on relationships but just on general interactions. Feel free to prove me wrong.
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Old 08-21-2018, 06:32 AM
 
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I say put this drivel in the Relationships forum. Don't need a wet behind the ears boy trying to sum up Asian women.
The nationality/racial angle make it verboten in the Relationship Forum.
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