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Hello,
I am looking for some real-life experiences for an article we are writing for a website on eldercare. In particular we are interested in success stories where siblings have figured out how to get everyone cooperating in caring for their aging parent(s). Whether the parent is in a nursing home or cared for at home, we would love to hear strategies that worked. In particular, cases where the male children in the family were big contributors. Unfortunately we learn about too many families where only one sibling takes over the whole burden, which can be overwhelming. If you are interested, either post here or send me a private message. Thanks
I would love to read the article when you are finished.
It's a struggle as everyone in the family has different situations. It's not an easy thing to iron out I'm sure. I just went down to a 4 day work week to take my Mom where she needs to go and when she doesn't need to go anywhere, I can catch up on what I need to get done in my own home after spending evening with her and days at work.
I am an only child and have my 93 year old mom living with us. I know two other women who are dealing with the same situation, one who has the burden alone and has just placed her mom in a home, the other a woman who managed alone for 12 years even though she has siblings. It has been a challenge for my family but we are managing with the help of my grandaughter who "grandma sits" for me now and then. Best of luck with the writting.
MIL is in hospital, dont think she will be comming home,FIL still at home with one son living there, we live an hr away and have to take my FIL to the hospital every day because my BIL wont do it, and he lives in the house.
sad isnt it?
Good luck with that. No success story here! We've tried to work together and I suppose for very brief periods we have managed. But there have been more battles than there have been moments of cooperation.
The original post was 3-1/2 years ago ... I wonder if he found a lot of (or any) success stories?
Bummer. I was going to brag on my son till I saw this. I will anyway, . While taking care of my mom, and I'm ashamed to admit I couldnt do personal care. My son quit his job to stay with us and did it for me. He was 36 at the time. I dont know what I would have done without him.
Have not had to deal with it yet, plan to blackmail when the time comes. I'm the Executor of the Will, brother doesn't get a dime if he doesn't help me with taking care of the folks. I'm going to be totally up front with him. (I have told my parents.) My brother lives an hour away and I live about 3 miles from my parents and I'm "a girl" so bro tends to dump things in my lap. If I have to take them on 24/7, things are going to change.
Whomever lives closest to Mom and Dad will be stuck. The only time it can be reasonably a shared responsibility is if more than one of the children lives close by. The smart ones are going to move away as soon as they see this on the horizon.
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. While taking care of my mom, and I'm ashamed to admit I couldnt do personal care. My son quit his job to stay with us and did it for me. He was 36 at the time. I dont know what I would have done without him.
