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Charlotte is cliquish. I can only speak for the in-town hangout spots....Uptown, NODA, SouthEnd.
Agree. I have lived in several cities/states over the past several years. Texas was the most friendly. Charlotte people are friendly but slow to bring you into their group. Long term relationships are hard to create after 25 it seems anyway. People get busy and more tenative and thats everywhere. I have many more acquantices here.
One thing is for sure, there are two different opinions on this Thread about North Carolina, Charlotte and the outter areas concerning "friendliness". Some say, "it's friendly", while others say, "yea, where???".
We don't go to Bars and very few restaurants (I cook a lot). As far as our age goes
(60), not everyone always feels great at this age. Shoot, after turning 57 and having two surgeries (hip replaced and rotor cup/shoulder), my bones/muscles do ache a lot more!! My wife has athsma and just can't stand to be around smoking/smokers and I don't like it either. For some people "age" is only a state-of-mind, while others "feel" the age and have to reduce activities. Unless you are 60+, you may not really understand these "aches and pains" we go thru and that some of us simply can not do the things we use to do 10-20 years ago.
We would love to meet/make some friends, but we do have certain things (how they act, interests are just a couple of things) that we look for in people to want them as friends. Yes, we are "picky", but we have that right. We don't have to be totally "open-minded" like we were always pressured to be when we lived for a few years in Southern California.
You can always check out Go Social Club. They have all kinds of events on there calendar that caters to all types of people and age. ANd its free.... www.gosocialclub.com
if you have neighbors, then you at least have that opportunity to make friends. well that's IF your neighbors are good ones invite some people on your street over for dessert and drinks one night.
Well there is a big difference between being friendly, which I believe Charlotte is and becoming friends. Getting invited into the inner sanctum of a group of friends is tough.
We live in an apartment. 99% of the people that live here either have kids or are up to 35 years younger than we are. Very little to talk about when there is an age difference like that.
We had the same age problem when we lived in a house in Colorado. Most of the folks in the housing development looked at us as their parents......due to our age of 60. Only two couples actually talked to us at all.
And, we are definitely "home bodies" during the week and we like it that way.
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if you have neighbors, then you at least have that opportunity to make friends. well that's IF your neighbors are good ones invite some people on your street over for dessert and drinks one night.
We live in an apartment. 99% of the people that live here either have kids or are up to 35 years younger than we are. Very little to talk about when there is an age difference like that.
We had the same age problem when we lived in a house in Colorado. Most of the folks in the housing development looked at us as their parents......due to our age of 60. Only two couples actually talked to us at all.
And, we are definitely "home bodies" during the week and we like it that way.
You seem like a very pleasant guy, but I'm kind of confused. You seem to be distressed over not being able to meet people, but at the same time you say you're home bodies, are picky about who you hang out with, and limit yourself to where you like to frequent (whether it's medically driven or preference). You certainly have the right to be picky, but don't speak out the other side of your mouth saying how hard it is to meet people.
Having said all that, have you considered moving to an active adult community? I believe they are developing one off of Bailey Road, which is off of Hwy 115 in Cornelius. I think there is also one in Lake Wylie. This type of environment, which is strictly for what? 55 years and older?, would certainly fit your bill and their would be a plethora of people in your age group that you could make friends with.
What type of boat do you have? Maybe consider a sail boat as LKN often has regattas. Try checking out the Lake Norman Yacht Club for information on formal and informal regatta gatherings: Lake Norman Yacht Club
I really feel for you having such a tough time meeting people. Perhaps you do need to "open up" a bit to find what you are seeking, but if you want to be a home body, be a home body. I don't think you can have it both ways unless you find like-minded home bodies--but then again, how would you meet them?
Edit to Add: There's a 2-day Regatta planned for July 4th and looks like loads of fun! Check out this link: Lake Norman Yacht Club
We live in an apartment. 99% of the people that live here either have kids or are up to 35 years younger than we are. Very little to talk about when there is an age difference like that.
We had the same age problem when we lived in a house in Colorado. Most of the folks in the housing development looked at us as their parents......due to our age of 60. Only two couples actually talked to us at all.
And, we are definitely "home bodies" during the week and we like it that way.
i hang out with my 60 year old neighbors all the time and i'm 27. we have plenty of fun together. you could always try moving to an area or apartment that tends to have older people. maybe you'll find more in common that way.
The active adult community that Carolina Guy mentioned sounds like a really good idea. Maybe see if there are any rentals to see if it is something you like without making a long term commitment.
Yes, we are "home bodies" during the week. We are both fairly tired in the evenings. BUT, on the weekends we can/do get into an "active" mode. We love playing 1 on 1 Poker, downing a few beers and a shot or two and watching/listening to a Classic Rock DVD concert......all in the safety of our home. Don't go out to eat much; just gets too expensive. We also like target shooting with rifles. Wife is a darn good shot at her age! Don't have a boat right now (don't want a sailboat), but will be getting a small cabin cruiser sometime. And, since we don't like to hear much swearing, no smoking and no kids and not a lot of drinking, we are (have to be) choosy about who we make as friends.
The problem with the 55 plus communities is that we just aren't sure that they could keep up with us on the weekends. We got with a group like that from an old church we use to attend........a number of them acted more like they were 80 years old instead of 55 plus maybe 10 years (65). These church people thought we were WILD!!!
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You seem like a very pleasant guy, but I'm kind of confused. You seem to be distressed over not being able to meet people, but at the same time you say you're home bodies, are picky about who you hang out with, and limit yourself to where you like to frequent (whether it's medically driven or preference). You certainly have the right to be picky, but don't speak out the other side of your mouth saying how hard it is to meet people.
Having said all that, have you considered moving to an active adult community? I believe they are developing one off of Bailey Road, which is off of Hwy 115 in Cornelius. I think there is also one in Lake Wylie. This type of environment, which is strictly for what? 55 years and older?, would certainly fit your bill and their would be a plethora of people in your age group that you could make friends with.
What type of boat do you have? Maybe consider a sail boat as LKN often has regattas. Try checking out the Lake Norman Yacht Club for information on formal and informal regatta gatherings: Lake Norman Yacht Club
I really feel for you having such a tough time meeting people. Perhaps you do need to "open up" a bit to find what you are seeking, but if you want to be a home body, be a home body. I don't think you can have it both ways unless you find like-minded home bodies--but then again, how would you meet them?
Edit to Add: There's a 2-day Regatta planned for July 4th and looks like loads of fun! Check out this link: Lake Norman Yacht Club
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invite some people on your street over for dessert and drinks one night.
