Need to hear from people who relocated without family (Charlotte: fit in, home)
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I am in desperate need to find other people who have relocated without their immediately family brothers or sister/Parents....We are looking to move to Union County and I need to talk to others who have been there for a little while and their family did not follow..My parents are not supportive which I understand Im taking their grandchildren away, and My sister and well she isnt happy about it either....so I need to hear how others deal with it....
I've relocated several times without any family or friends with me in the past 30 years. It takes a while to make new friends, but you will survive.
Now I feel like I want to go back home and I am on the other side of the country. I guess as you get older, your family becomes more important and you want to spend time with them.
It will take time to make new friends. But you will never be able to make new parents, or brothers and sisters. Often times people will say they're moving for an improved "quality of life".
hi staci, leaving family behind is of concern to my wife who has a sister and brother also living on long island. i have two sisters that i dont keep in touch with, so the move is a lot easier for me. I told my wife that we will buy the cam for our computer so that she would be able to see her family while talking to them. She will be 'seeing' more of them when we get down there than while we are still here! Also the flight is only an hour and twenty min. long so i anticipate holiday/summer visits.
My fiance and I are relocating with no family down there. Both our families are in the Boston area. We're moving for a better life for our children (and the ability to afford to have children) and for more enjoyable lives for ourselves. I guess I see it that we only see them maybe once every 2 months anyways and its only a 2 hour flight. I see it that if my family really loves me it doesn't matter where I am. If they are being selfish then they make complaints about us leaving, because they only care about what they want. Not what's best for us.
Since everyone got together for Christmas yesterday, we were BOMBARDED with questions and "advise" about our upcoming move to Charlotte. When I asked my brother-in-law whether or not he and his family would visit once we were settled in Charlotte, he said: "Why would I want to visit you there? There's nothing to do there!" This is the kind of negative feedback we're dealing with. I think it just comes down to a combination of those who just don't want us to move away and those family and friends who are just plain envious that we have the guts to take on this big move.
Go forward with the attitude that home is where you hang your hat.Come to the area, with the attitude that you are going to embrace and love everything,and everybody that you meet. You will do fine.I have moved many times and I learn to fit in by embracing the community and not comparing where I have come from. We had better,,,,,, and our,,,,,,,was better ,is the kind of comparing I mean. People will embrace you and your family when you embrace them. You will make friends and have an extended family quickly.Best wishes,we are on our way to SW Va. in one month So we'll be doing the same.
We left family behind 4 moves ago and took the "grandchildren" away. It was hard. I grew up in the state my 2 babies were born in and went away to college but ended up back in the same town as it was where my job offer was.. but my husband and I took the leap to another state as it offered me the opportunity to stay home with my children... we have learned so much from making that first leap away... our own nuclear family is stronger for it... we agree that we would never have dreamed of adding another child, our third to the group if we still lived in the north east, and we learned to grow in our marriage. I learned to depend less on my immediate family, because I was the immediate family for my own children and husband. We have no regrets. We have grown in ways I can't explain... do we miss everyone yes, I am one of a large family and my husband's family is in a different direction to visit-- but one thing is clear, we are happier as a family unit every day for making our choice. Good luck.
And, you learn, that if you find the right place to live, your neighbors become that family for you, as they have for us. We love Waxhaw and the neighborhood we live in.
We moved here about 20 years ago and now are moving from NY to NC in a few months.
Our opinions, it has made our marraige stronger because we dont have family to run to when we have an arguement. We are married 18 years ; some happy, some not so happy, but we have the same goal ; to be in a place that We can call home.
It is hard at holiday time, gosh its a killer some years. But thats life and we can only be as happy as we allow ourselves to be.
dorothy
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