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Old 03-28-2016, 05:19 PM
 
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Since this issue is in the workplace, I would let it go. Your job is more important. Focus on yourself (being the best you can be) and let her problems remain her problems.
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Old 03-28-2016, 06:54 PM
 
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I feel like I am being getting walked on but God tells me to suffer for him and let it slide. I struggle with this every day. I am trying to find another job but that will take a while.


Any advice?
Why question god?
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Old 03-28-2016, 07:14 PM
 
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Correcting a child's behavior benefits the child and all those around him.
Love the child, correct the bad behavior...with no malice.
If there is a way to correct this person...do that...with no malice...and no
attachment to whether it has the desired effect.

Confidence lies in clarity and is from God within.
Confusion is from the 'other guy'.

Jesus said, turn the other cheek...yet, when his disciples couldn't heal that boy
(right after his Transfiguration, no less) What does he say in front of everyone?
How long must I suffer you? (as in, You nit-wits that don't get it after all these years of me teaching you....)
Was he all kind and gentle...no.

There is a bigger picture to Jesus...not just a verse here and there, out of context.

I wish you clarity in this matter.

PS God never said to suffer for Him.



The James quotes were excellent, btw, jimmie...couldn't give you another rep.
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Old 03-28-2016, 07:30 PM
 
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I have been really struggling with this at work. There is a gal in the office who is being nasty and underhanded to others while trying to gain a promotion. I have been one of her victims as she put other people down to look good for big boss. There is a lot of hatred towards her inside of me now....I go home upset every night. What she is doing is not right. I wish God can come down now and set her straight this very moment. But the bible tells me to turn the other cheek and I pray on that at night before I head to bed. I know it's what I have to do but I feel like there are people out there who abuse the system and get away with it.


I feel like I am being getting walked on but God tells me to suffer for him and let it slide. I struggle with this every day. I am trying to find another job but that will take a while.


Any advice?
There are many lessons you can take from it.

don't take it literally. It means leave all options open and keep compassion at the forefront of your next choice. It refers to a "slap", not getting your teeth knock out anyway.
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Old 03-28-2016, 07:41 PM
 
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You have the gift of voice, and practiced reason. Use it.
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Old 03-28-2016, 09:23 PM
 
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I have been really struggling with this at work. There is a gal in the office who is being nasty and underhanded to others while trying to gain a promotion. I have been one of her victims as she put other people down to look good for big boss. There is a lot of hatred towards her inside of me now....I go home upset every night. What she is doing is not right. I wish God can come down now and set her straight this very moment. But the bible tells me to turn the other cheek and I pray on that at night before I head to bed. I know it's what I have to do but I feel like there are people out there who abuse the system and get away with it.


I feel like I am being getting walked on but God tells me to suffer for him and let it slide. I struggle with this every day. I am trying to find another job but that will take a while.


Any advice?
There is a time for turning the other cheek and there is a time for turning over a few tables. Why would you think you have to turn the other cheek to a woman who is nasty and underhanded? Why would God want you to suffer because you have a devious co-worker?

What happens if the next job has someone like this woman? Are you planning on leaving it instead of standing up to the person who makes your life miserable?

My advice is to stand up for yourself. Nowhere in the Bible does it say you have to be a doormat for a bully to be a Christian.

p.s. Hate is self-destructive. Hate leads to ulcers and heart attacks. Your hating her hurts YOU....not her. You're giving her power over your health. God can't use you if you're sick because you let this woman have so much space in your head. Stand up for yourself and she loses that power.

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Old 03-28-2016, 09:27 PM
 
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There is a time for turning the other cheek and there is a time for turning over a few tables. Why would you think you have to turn the other cheek to a woman who is nasty and underhanded? Why would God want you to suffer because you have a devious co-worker?

What happens if the next job has someone like this woman? Are you planning on leaving it instead of standing up to the person who makes your life miserable?

My advice is to stand up for yourself. Nowhere in the Bible does it say you have to be a doormat to be a Christian.
The lord helps those who help themselves, in other words you need to stand up for yourself without resorting to tactics that would be beneath you.

Do it and things will immediately improve.
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Old 03-29-2016, 01:17 AM
 
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God has called you to follow in Christ's steps. Try to think of your situation as an opportunity presented to you by God, to fulfill this verse.

For even hereunto were ye called: because Christ also suffered for us, leaving us an example, that ye should follow his steps: Who did no sin, neither was guile found in his mouth: Who, when he was reviled, reviled not again; when he suffered, he threatened not; but committed himself to him that judgeth righteously.
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Old 03-29-2016, 03:50 AM
 
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Loving the enemies means that you pray for blessing of God on the enemy , as God will not hear the cursing against the enemy in the prayers ......And by this you put it in God hands and let it go and He will turn it around on God`s time , as we need to wait on the Lord , for His best ............Ways to pray for blessing is the authority of the believer prayers which bring redemption from evil spirits , and asking for forgiveness for the enemy , which can be temporary
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Old 03-29-2016, 12:26 PM
 
Location: Booth Texas
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I have been really struggling with this at work. There is a gal in the office who is being nasty and underhanded to others while trying to gain a promotion. I have been one of her victims as she put other people down to look good for big boss. There is a lot of hatred towards her inside of me now....I go home upset every night. What she is doing is not right. I wish God can come down now and set her straight this very moment. But the bible tells me to turn the other cheek and I pray on that at night before I head to bed. I know it's what I have to do but I feel like there are people out there who abuse the system and get away with it.


I feel like I am being getting walked on but God tells me to suffer for him and let it slide. I struggle with this every day. I am trying to find another job but that will take a while.


Any advice?
You have the greatest chance and you scoff at it. Go out and buy that person a gift card for a meal someplace.


Returning anger for anger begets more anger, but when you walk up on a person who has hate in their eyes for you, and especially a person who has wronged you, you smile, tell them that you appreciate them and hand them that gift card.


See what happens.


We already know what will happen if the two of yas continue to hate each other, but you may surprise yourself if you take my advise, and there is no greater retribution than to be kind to a person who has done you wrong. Returning anger for anger begets anger, but to be kind and loving to a person who has treated you wrong will cut them like a knife and seriously hurt them, that is true revenge. To make a person look inside themselves.


I have been in positions like that many times, and many times I showed them more love than I did with my best friends and it's amazing just how many will sit there and cry.


If it does not touch them, all the more better.
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