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I took a class and did great in it, and I could tell the professor appreciated the efforts I put into it as I seemed very passionate (it was a health law and ethics class). Fast forward a semester later, which is right now, I emailed her to ask for a letter of recommendation for graduate school. She was very willing to write me one and wanted to meet up with me to discuss about my goals and whatnot. We were supposed to meet a week ago, but I made up an excuse and rescheduled. So we were supposed to meet this past Monday, I did not show up nor did I notify her. I've just been busy these days with everything going on, so I overslept. I don't want to tell her I overslept and make up anymore excuses.. I know it's really unprofessional of me but I feel like she could write me a really great letter.
How should I approach her about it? It's been a few days since the appointment passed and I have not said a word yet. Should I just forget about it?
Please give me any advice! If anything, I know I owe her at least an apology for wasting her time.
Well, you should have apologized immediately. Now the best you can do is write a letter to her explaining exactly why you missed - hopefully you have a really good reason for being so tired, like you're working three jobs to support yourself or something like that - and just say that your calendar has been so full that you completely forgot the appointment, and you're so sorry for wasting her time. Honesty is the best policy.
However, I think you should consider asking someone else for a recommendation instead. If I were her, I'd have some reservations about writing you a good one after you stood me up. There are few qualities more important for success than reliability.
It's been my policy that whenever I need to renege on a previous commitment, I always immediately notify the other party, apologize, and briefly state a reason even if it's not really that great. In the day of smartphones, there is no excuse for not developing this habit. If the professor doesn't give you a second chance, at least you've learned a life lesson.
Well, you should have apologized immediately. Now the best you can do is write a letter to her explaining exactly why you missed - hopefully you have a really good reason for being so tired, like you're working three jobs to support yourself or something like that - and just say that your calendar has been so full that you completely forgot the appointment, and you're so sorry for wasting her time. Honesty is the best policy.
However, I think you should consider asking someone else for a recommendation instead. If I were her, I'd have some reservations about writing you a good one after you stood me up. There are few qualities more important for success than reliability.
I don't work 3 jobs, but I've been really stressed this semester and my sleep has been greatly affected because of it. I go to school full time and intern part time. I'm also prepping for the GRE so on top of my regular classes, all my focus has been directed towards the GRE. I know that's still no excuse for how unprofessional I was... Guess I'm just gonna write her a heart-felt apology and leave it at that. Won't push asking for the letter any further
Guess I'm just gonna write her a heart-felt apology and leave it at that. Won't push asking for the letter any further
I think that's your best option at this point. You made a mistake. It happens in life and it won't be your last time. Write the note and hope for the best.
I took a class and did great in it, and I could tell the professor appreciated the efforts I put into it as I seemed very passionate (it was a health law and ethics class). Fast forward a semester later, which is right now, I emailed her to ask for a letter of recommendation for graduate school. She was very willing to write me one and wanted to meet up with me to discuss about my goals and whatnot. We were supposed to meet a week ago, but I made up an excuse and rescheduled. So we were supposed to meet this past Monday, I did not show up nor did I notify her. I've just been busy these days with everything going on, so I overslept. I don't want to tell her I overslept and make up anymore excuses.. I know it's really unprofessional of me but I feel like she could write me a really great letter.
How should I approach her about it? It's been a few days since the appointment passed and I have not said a word yet. Should I just forget about it?
Please give me any advice! If anything, I know I owe her at least an apology for wasting her time.
Forget about it. I'm a college professor and I wouldn't give a recommendation to a student that has missed two appointments for a recommendation letter. It's a quick meeting and it should be a priority for the student. If they can't keep that meeting, it leaves the impression that they aren't serious about applying to graduate school.
Well, I would contact her and apologize, and not ask for a letter. Just tell her what you said here, that you make a mistake and got busy. That way, you have done right and can rest easy.
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