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Perhaps the man likes babies, has one of his own. Maybe he is blind and really can't see a thing. Maybe he sleeps with his eyes open, who knows. Indeed, context is everything, isn't it. I highly doubt the first reaction by a woman would be to inquire but rather, complain. You see how slippery the slope gets?
You can make all of the exceptions you want to your imaginary scenario of a man staring. I would bet a man staring would be a very uncommon scenario. I nursed both of my kids in public, discreetly but without a blanket and never had any issues with anyone staring at all.
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Who is "we"? Please follow the thread, you're way off.
You're way off if you cant make out a thought from a un-understood 2 letters. We is me, and those that think like me.
"if u cn rd ths..." I guess that has you totally dumbfounded then?
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Yes, how many women, seeing what appears to be a man staring at them thinks at first anything but they are a pervert or worse? How many would bother to ascertain the intent before becoming defensive or offensive, judging first and asking later? I thought so. If only one man stares, does the woman say, "its only one guy" or is that enough to initiate the thought or complaint. Here we have a case of wanting the cake, eating it too but forbidding anyone else a bite. It is so obvious.
I agree. Guess Im not as off as you want to believe.
It all boils down to this: no one has yet shown that covering can't be done comfortably for both mother and baby. What has been shown beyond question is that apparently, women posting here just don't want to or think a breast feeding mother should when asked, to d so. If there is no harm to the mother or baby, then why in the face of a complaint is there such resistance? It sure looks like the me me me and to heck with anyone else thing. Now, if anyone can prove covering with the many solutions available to breast feeding mothers these days would harm either mother or baby, ok but that hasn't been the case. What has been the case is a simple "I don't want to". To that I say, the world doesn't revolve around you and your baby. Yea, I have had children and yes they breast fed and mother covered because she considered others, not just herself. The children were not harmed and they were comfortable because that is the mothers job, to find ways to make it comfortable, not just stand on her heels and demand everyone else just deal with it. Too bad that social skill seems to be so lacking in many of today's mothers.
It all boils down to this: no one has yet shown that covering can't be done comfortably for both mother and baby. What has been shown beyond question is that apparently, women posting here just don't want to or think a breast feeding mother should when asked, to d so. If there is no harm to the mother or baby, then why in the face of a complaint is there such resistance? It sure looks like the me me me and to heck with anyone else thing. Now, if anyone can prove covering with the many solutions available to breast feeding mothers these days would harm either mother or baby, ok but that hasn't been the case. What has been the case is a simple "I don't want to". To that I say, the world doesn't revolve around you and your baby. Yea, I have had children and yes they breast fed and mother covered because she considered others, not just herself. The children were not harmed and they were comfortable because that is the mothers job, to find ways to make it comfortable, not just stand on her heels and demand everyone else just deal with it. Too bad that social skill seems to be so lacking in many of today's mothers.
Many babies will push a blanket off and will refuse to nurse covered. My first child was like that. She would cause more of a scene with her protest to the cover then if I just nursed her discreetly without one.
You're way off if you cant make out a thought from a un-understood 2 letters. We is me, and those that think like me.
"if u cn rd ths..." I guess that has you totally dumbfounded then?
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I agree. Guess Im not as off as you want to believe.
I see, insults come out sooner or later. Thanks for that, at least now I know who can maintain a discussion without resorting to childlike behavior and who can't. I do not recall insulting anyone. Bye bye to you.
Many babies will push a blanket off and will refuse to nurse covered. My first child was like that. She would cause more of a scene with her protest to the cover then if I just nursed her discreetly without one.
That is completely understandable, and were someone to complain, easily explained and if that explanation was not acceptable, I would be first in line to defend the mother's position. That isn't the issue though. I see a difference in a willingness to do something and an inability to do it because of a circumstance as you cited as two very different things. The baby has a say and if they would push off a cover, they are saying it. At that point, feeding is the overriding priority. If however, the baby would feed covered then why not?
That is completely understandable, and were someone to complain, easily explained and if that explanation was not acceptable, I would be first in line to defend the mother's position. That isn't the issue though. I see a difference in a willingness to do something and an inability to do it because of a circumstance as you cited as two very different things.
The flight attendant was rude about it, but let's face it -- the breast is an intimate part of the anatomy that not everyone wants to see. I don't think a little bit of discretion in public is out of the question.
The flight attendant was rude about it, but let's face it -- the breast is an intimate part of the anatomy that not everyone wants to see. I don't think a little bit of discretion in public is out of the question.
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