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I have a co-worker who goes to Weight Watchers. Her husband is not supportive of it. She's doing great, by the way! Personally, I don't belive he want's her to lose. For once, she's taking control. IF my husband (and thank goodness I don't have one) called me fat, I'd have him flying through the room
I have a co-worker who goes to Weight Watchers. Her husband is not supportive of it. She's doing great, by the way! Personally, I don't belive he want's her to lose. For once, she's taking control. IF my husband (and thank goodness I don't have one) called me fat, I'd have him flying through the room
Just think of how many calories you'd burn throwing him about to make him fly!...LOL
Thanks for all of your replies. They are all so encouraging and supportive. One of the things I am discovering about Weightwatchers is that it really does boost your self-esteem. I really don't think he wants me to succeed, but I will. It's just really hard with no support in the house from him, but I really appreciate each and every suggestion....I do really think it is about control. I am going to keep posting here because everything you have all said is so true.....he really does deserve a kick in the a**, and he may just get it!!!
I am a forty-something female. For the past year or so my spouse has been calling me fat. So I joinedWeightwatchers and have been 3 times. So far I have lost about 9 pounds. He keeps offering me the fat food which he is continuing to inhale like crazy and he doesn't gain weight, then he gets offended when I tell him I can't eat junk food anymore. I am 5'3" and I weigh 150, so obviously I have a way to go. I am so p'd off at him, and told him that he needs to get off my back, but he's not. I told him I think he is abusing me but he just says the weight loss is for my own good!! Like I didn't really know I needed to lose weight. I didn't sign up for WW's because of him, it was because a friend and I decided that we wanted to lose weight. Most of my friends have (the girls) have said to give him a kick in the *****, and tell him where to go.
He says my feelings shouldn't be hurt because he has only said it three or four times, and he still thinks I'm really cute---I just need to lose weight. What kind of person does this to their partner? We have been together for 6 years.
Emotional abuse is just as bad as phyisical abuse. If your mate is controlling, non supportive, and emotional abusive what good is he? Life is short, have a heart to heart with him, then weigh the advantages with the disadvantages. It maybe time to go.
Good luck and stick with WW for you and your health.
Thin spouses don't have to deal with the "you are so shallow" criticism that make real conversation hard on regular forums.
and the "dump the B**tard" line of conversation is discouraged as well.
Its a real support group with reasonable solutions from loving spouses who want to help but don't know how.
Stop the SPAM griping, there is no profit being made on the site and it isn't selling anything its just a website for people to get some understanding and help.
I have a co-worker who goes to Weight Watchers. Her husband is not supportive of it. She's doing great, by the way! Personally, I don't belive he want's her to lose. For once, she's taking control. IF my husband (and thank goodness I don't have one) called me fat, I'd have him flying through the room
most people (the good ones i mean) would never call their spouse fat. some men dont want their women to lose weight because they fear she will then be even more attractive to other men and then she may leave him.
Some partners feel so insecure that they start to worry if their partner looses weight and will do all they can to undermine their efforts.
The fact that someone who professes to love you was saying that to you to begin with, should make you question their regard for you. We build people up that we love, we do not tear them down. His name calling is more likely a way to keep you torn down so he can hold on to you.
Its not something I would ever hear twice out of someones mouth.
Hmmmm, this hits close to home. When I was 9 months pregnant, and in the hospital on bedrest as a result of having pre-eclampsia, I asked my then husband to bring me a Glamour magazine. He said to me: Glamour? Have you looked in the mirror? It was the shape of things to come.
After delivering the baby, but while still in the hospital, (then) DH asked me how fast I would be able to lose the weight I had gained. As you can imagine, I didn't lose the weight fast enough to suit him and I got sick of the nasty comments as I got up every two hours to breastfeed a baby and was really too tired to exercise. Eventually I lost about 165 pounds; I can certainly recommend my divorce attorney.
Looking back, the issues weren't really my extra baby weight; there were bigger problems. Being at a healthy weight IS important. Having your spouse care about your health is wonderful. Being emotionally abused is something entirely different.
YOU are empowered, YOU are in charge of YOUR life. LOVE yourself Good Luck; DM me if you need to talk.
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We have been together for 6 years.
Good Luck; DM me if you need to talk.
