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Old 08-17-2013, 12:32 AM
 
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I'm a first time bride, who feel in love with a strapless dress, but I'm worried that It will make me look ever bigger. SO my question is for other plus size women, do I pick the one I fell in love with or go with a pretty dress thats more fattering but i dont love?
I am a super plus size girl 300+lbs but still an hour glass figure for the most part just a large one. I also have to consider my but as well I have a G cup.
Here is the dress in question (especially love the back of the dress)
http://pic.yupoo.com/amyqueenb/D5Nf1Qac/Z1GtQ.jpg
and here is the second dress that I dont like as much, and since Im wering a bird cage veil I also question the second dress if it goes together
http://pic.yupoo.com/amyqueenb/D5NgyYoC/RKFTF.jpg

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Old 08-17-2013, 01:29 AM
 
Location: San Antonio, TX
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I like the first dress better. It's more flattering. Don't worry about the dress making you look big...from one plus sized woman to another, you aren't going to look small in the other dress, so have the dress that you love.

You are going to need a strapless bra for either dress. The bust on the first dress looks like it can probably be altered to fit if necessary. When my sister was trying on wedding dresses, they seemed to run several sizes small, so if you're ordering online, make sure they have a fit chart that you can look at, don't just order the size that you usually wear.
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Old 08-17-2013, 08:56 AM
 
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I adore the first dress, it's stunning! I was a plus sized bride (around 200 at the time). I will say if you are bigger you may want to try a corset back. If you tie it tight, it will pull you in a bit and make you appear thinner then what you really are (that's what I did with mine). My dress was strapless as well, and at the time I was DD. I didn't happen to need straps but a bought a strapless bra for the dress, which helped out. You may want to check into buying a strapless bra, or go to where you buy your dress (or a bridal store if you buy online) and discuss your problem. I'm sure they will set you up with something that will not only make you feel comfortable but look your best as well on your special day.
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Old 08-18-2013, 10:08 AM
 
Location: Oakland, CA
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I agree about the first one. I think the hardest thing will be finding a stapless bra. You didn't mention a band size, but I am an H to HH and I find the pickings slim for my size. I am also at the border in terms of band sizes as well.

I agree with @hedgehog_mom. Enjoy your big day and your marriage.

Not married, but I have been a bridesmaid quite often. Another fit tip, I am short waisted so I found that some dresses had a waist that hit me essentially at the start if my hips. This caused me tons of alteration expenses. So see if you can find out where the waist hits too. The dresses are cut in old school patterns and assume a more pear like shape and a smaller bust. Being busty you may need to go up a few sizes. Or having a Hirt torso could do the same. Use your biggest measurement to choose a size. And don't be shocked if the number is 2-4 more than usual. It's not you, it is just the pattern.
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Old 08-18-2013, 10:13 AM
 
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the first dress for sure. the second is pretty but has no personality
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Old 08-18-2013, 11:40 AM
 
Location: State of Transition
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Originally Posted by judygriffin367 View Post
I'm a first time bride, who feel in love with a strapless dress, but I'm worried that It will make me look ever bigger. SO my question is for other plus size women, do I pick the one I fell in love with or go with a pretty dress thats more flattering but i dont love?
I am a super plus size girl 300+lbs but still an hour glass figure for the most part just a large one. I also have to consider my but as well I have a G cup.
Here is the dress in question (especially love the back of the dress)
http://pic.yupoo.com/amyqueenb/D5Nf1Qac/Z1GtQ.jpg
and here is the second dress that I dont like as much, and since Im wering a bird cage veil I also question the second dress if it goes together
http://pic.yupoo.com/amyqueenb/D5NgyYoC/RKFTF.jpg
No-brainer. Why would you want a dress that isn't flattering?


A word to the wise: A wedding photographer wrote into a newspaper advice column, once. He begged women not to get strapless gowns. He says it's inevitable that at some point during the reception, tossing the bouquet, dancing, whenever, "the girls" will pop out and make a surprise appearance. If you don't want to be flashing the audience and providing a free peep show, go with the other gown.
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Old 08-18-2013, 12:01 PM
 
Location: Oakland, CA
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I disagree with Ruth. As a fellow busty woman, I feel ok in a strapless dress if it fits properly and I have a good strapless (I had a fantasie bra that was such an amazing fit. And as comfy and well fitting as a normal bra.)

But it is all mute if you don't feel comfy in the dress. Definitely try it on. That dress looks like it will highlight your waist well and make you look super curvy. Win win in my book. On the flip side, fit is extra critical around the bust so find an experienced seamstress to help.

I think you can break the "rules" all you want. So many women decide to put life on hold until they are a certain weight, size or look.


I am on my phone, please forgive the typos.
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Old 08-19-2013, 12:43 PM
 
Location: Glasgow Scotland
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Im not that keen on strapless wedding dressing, to me they look too much like evenining or prom dresses.. and too many brides wear these with big fat backs and arms that I dont like and they would look much better covered up a bit even with lace sleeves etc..
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Old 08-19-2013, 12:43 PM
 
Location: Philaburbia
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They're both beautiful. I'd lean toward the second one because I like plainer dresses.

Go with the one you like best.

Congratulations, no matter which dress you wear!
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Old 08-19-2013, 12:58 PM
 
Location: Glasgow Scotland
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yes all the best on the big day.. I hate my own arms and have a thing about showing them off..
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