my aunt died yesterday

[HollyhockGarden]

Hi Once --

I am very sorry your aunt died. I had an aunt who was like a 2nd mother, and I still miss her very much. Even though you may not attend funerals often, it will always be hard to say good-bye to those we care about. -- Hollyhock

[tamiznluv]

Originally Posted by HollyhockGarden

Hi Once --

I am very sorry your aunt died. I had an aunt who was like a 2nd mother, and I still miss her very much. Even though you may not attend funerals often, it will always be hard to say good-bye to those we care about. -- Hollyhock

The OP was posted 6 years ago.

[CorporateCowboy]

I’m sorry for your loss!

[petch751]

Originally Posted by jordangallion

My aunt has cancer and is on the verge of dying. When is a good time to grieve?

I grieved when mom had a stroke almost 5 years ago because of her loss of independence and strength. Last year mom was losing ground and I grieved because I hated to see her struggling and suffering. I cried a lot because I hates her suffering and knew her time was getting closer. I was always worried and then depressed. If I was not with her I hated hearing the phone ring because it may be the dreaded call.

My mom died last week, Feb 2nd. Now my feelings are all over, at first numb and disbelief, other times ok because I think to myself, she doesn't know she's dead. Then back to a sudden outburst of crying, then normal because I am relieved she is not suffering anymore, or really sad because I'll never see her again. Thankful because I spent a lot of time and did a lot with her. Then back to disbelief. It's all over the place.

Although I do try to hide my grief I guess it's time to grieve what you feel and when you feel it.

[tamiznluv]

My condolences, petch. I don't think it is good to hide your grief all the time. At least not all the time. You need to get it out of your soul.