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I've never heard of anyone outside the ghetto burning a bridge because someone yelled at them.
Maybe you've never known anyone w/any self esteem? If you like people yelling at you, that's your scene. I don't. I don't allow it and I don't care who it is. If it means 'burning a bridge' then it's probably a bridge I don't care to cross. So, what's your real point in being rude?
Koale
Maybe you've never known anyone w/any self esteem? If you like people yelling at you, that's your scene. I don't. I don't allow it and I don't care who it is. If it means 'burning a bridge' then it's probably a bridge I don't care to cross. So, what's your real point in being rude?
Koale
To flesh out your personality a little so that the kid can see from where your advice comes.
People with good self-esteem don't worry about someone yelling at them occassionally. Their self-image isn't that fragile. They recognize that the person yelling has something they may want someday so they apply good political responses to avoid further mistreatment while maintaining the quality of the bridge. That's my opinion.
To flesh out your personality a little so that the kid can see from where your advice comes.
People with good self-esteem don't worry about someone yelling at them occassionally. Their self-image isn't that fragile. They recognize that the person yelling has something they may want someday so they apply good political responses to avoid further mistreatment while maintaining the quality of the bridge. That's my opinion.
While the recruiter certainly didn't act very professional, you were in the wrong. If you get an interview through a recruiter all communication going foward should only be with your recruiter. That is how it works. The recruiter talks with the company and you talk with the recruiter.
If you don't like those rules don't use a recruiter.
This is proper procedure.
The recruiter "flew off the deep end" because they/she probably felt you were trying to "go around her", which, in turn would mean her/the agency's fees would not be paid by the company looking to hire.
But, in all fairness, this should have been explained to you when you were interviewed by the recruiter, and failing that is on her. And so is her unprofessional behavior yelling at you like that.
Be prepared that this has been a learning experience and most probably will not be called again for this position, or any other. That is, unless her placement fee with this company is at stake because the company wants to hire you. Be assured, if the company wants you, she will call you, but never again.
I am not "ghetto" either but scream at me like a banshee and we are done. If I make a mistake do to simply not being aware of proper procedures most especially if the recruiter did not spell those procedures out at the beginning I expect to be treated in a professional manner. I am expected to present myself professionally to the recruiter am I not? This works both ways. Of course I am only using myself as an example fortunately this has never happened to me because I know the rules. I still think the recruiter was over the line she could have very simply explained the correct procedure to the OP instead of going off the deep end. Standing up for oneself, respecting others and expecting the same is not "ghetto" it is simply good business.
I am not "ghetto" either but scream at me like a banshee and we are done. If I make a mistake do to simply not being aware of proper procedures most especially if the recruiter did not spell those procedures out at the beginning I expect to be treated in a professional manner. I am expected to present myself professionally to the recruiter am I not? This works both ways. Of course I am only using myself as an example fortunately this has never happened to me because I know the rules. I still think the recruiter was over the line she could have very simply explained the correct procedure to the OP instead of going off the deep end. Standing up for oneself, respecting others and expecting the same is not "ghetto" it is simply good business.
To flesh out your personality a little so that the kid can see from where your advice comes.
People with good self-esteem don't worry about someone yelling at them occassionally. Their self-image isn't that fragile. They recognize that the person yelling has something they may want someday so they apply good political responses to avoid further mistreatment while maintaining the quality of the bridge. That's my opinion.
I disagree. I went 20 years in the workforce without being yelled at once. Then I worked at a place where the boss felt free to raise her voice to me. I told her flat-out that her yelling was inappropriate, that no one had ever raised their voice to me in a professional setting, and that I would expect not to be treated that way.
She tried to "yell" at me through email a few months later, and I called her on that, too.
When she raised her voice at me in person a second time, I stood up, announced I was quitting, and that was the end of that. Sorry, she had nothing that I need or want for my professional growth, and because she had been told repeatedly by other people around the company, including people senior to her, that as long as I was around, she looked good, I'll take it as confirmation that she needed me more than I needed her.
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