Have you ever had to deal with a miserable person?

[cl723]

Go into another room were she is not or outside. Try not to have conversation with her when she is around you. I personaly wouldn't even be around someone like this. It is not worth it.

[Heartsong]

Originally Posted by jaijai

Accept her for who she is, don't try and change her (that's up to her) but have very good and clear boundaries.
And make it clear to her that you will not tolerate her taking out her stuff on you.If everyone in her life takes care of themselves and doesn't allow her to dump on them, that may be motivation enough for her to change her ways.
If not, at least everyone around her is taking care of him and her self.

Good advice. I've been around a person who was rather miserable and this is exactly how we had to deal with it. Be positive - but set boundaries.

[Three Wolves In Snow]

Originally Posted by sml2955

Just everything about them was so miserable? You try to talk to them and they are just so cold? How do you deal? I have this sis in law and she is the most miserable person I have ever known. I know she has been depressed since she lost her job but she takes her anger and frustration out on everyone else,acts like a rude *****, is a homebody, doesn't make an effort to look for work and refuses to go to therapy. How do you deal with a person like this when you always have to see them?

Yes I have known totally miserable and grumpy people that appear to be this way 24/7. I've had co-workers who were like this to the point that they were very abusive to other co-workers.

How do I deal with them? I don't.

I will not allow some grumpy old **** try to ruin my day just because they are wallowing in self pity or are constantly angry or woe is me, life isn't fair.

Tell them to pick up the shattered pieces of their life and move on. And then you move on. You do not have to deal with this person. If they want someone to talk to, hand them the phone book opened up to "T" for "therapist".

[angelscorpio]

they reach their bottom patience. She hasn't reach it yet. No matter what you do or what say, she won't change because she feels hasn't suffered enough. She is a complaining person, in other words, she's a drama collector.

Drama collectors are not interested in living life as normal but complaining all the time. They need drama to able to live. If something doesn't have drama they are not interested. They look out for drama in everything out there own life.
So my recommendation is that stop worrying about someone that is not prepared to change. She will when she get tired of it. It's like a drug addict, they raise their hands when they touch that bottom....