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I live in Iselin and my next door neighbors come outside their house every time I pull into my drive way or hang outside in the front of the house, or go take garbage outside... you get the idea. The thing is that they look at me and continue staring at me, even after I say 'hi', they do not have intentions of starting a conversation or whatsoever, they just stare at me and my husband nonstop. In some cultures this could be considered rude, but I am not sure if it's something that Indian people do or is part of their culture. I am not trying to be judgemental, I am just trying to understand their culture. I am already accostumed to their "staring" habits, but sometimes it can make me uncomfortable...
They're stupid and were raised stupid. It's that simple. I'm Indian and I realize this as well. It's a 3rd world thing.
Not all Indians stare or retain there culture most of them try to shed as much as possible...with food and religion being the remaining pieces left.... Most of my Indian friends are open minded and do not stare , this seems to be an older generation thing which does not suprise me.
Also, I also noticed that the wives of my 2 neighbors refuse to say 'hi' or speak to us, however, the husbands are really friendly.. (and they stare too, :-P) Is there a reason for this?
It is right, it may be an older generation thing too, as their parents live with them and they do that all the time.
Well, Indian culture do not appreciate black people, to put it in a diplomatic way. So that isn't the best write-up to demonstrate the "staring culture".
I work with a lot of Indian people and have been to India for work several times. They do stare... but it's more of them observing. Indian people are deep thinkers... always trying to improve the process. So they are likely staring at you, observing you, thinking to themselves.... "there's a better way to do that, I'm sure of it".
It's built into their culture and they don't know any different. It's hard to consider something rude when it's normal to the actor. You know?
Exactly. My daughter is currently living in south-central China where they don't see as many white people as they do in places like Shanghai. She is not only stared at but people come up and want to touch her hair or they want to see the hair on her arms and ask her why it's yellow. She gets the added bonus of having brown eyes, which is weird to some of them who thought all white people have blue eyes. The other "rude" thing is that people in China, when you are ahead of them in the street and they are walking faster than you are, they don't go around you--they SHOVE YOU OUT OF THE WAY. They also don't know how to form a line--if there is something that we would normally line up for, like tickets or to catch a bus, they fight and shove and elbow and knock one another down to be first. She said it's like being in a country where everyone acts like children.
But the point is that she said you can't get mad at the people for this because to them, it's not rude. It's just the way they live.
Maybe they want to approach you but are feeling too shy. Or maybe they're just curious. I doubt they stare in_order_to make you uncomfortable. Just a possibility.
Yea, the Indian woman next door stared at me for a while when they first moved in. Even grabbed her kids and made them go inside like I was going to kidnap them or something. HAH.
But then, from what I know of them (not much given their rude attitudes), the wife is from some tiny village so she's probably only heard stories about the US. Who knows.
Just stare right back. Looking away is a sign of weakness, IMO. If they're trying to intimidate, don't let them get away with it.
Yea, the Indian woman next door stared at me for a while when they first moved in. Even grabbed her kids and made them go inside like I was going to kidnap them or something. HAH.
But then, from what I know of them (not much given their rude attitudes), the wife is from some tiny village so she's probably only heard stories about the US. Who knows.
Just stare right back. Looking away is a sign of weakness, IMO. If they're trying to intimidate, don't let them get away with it.
Just like playing chicken.
This just seems silly. Who's going to go around playing these silly games just to avoid a perceived sign of weakness? People have better things to do than stare back.
This just seems silly. Who's going to go around playing these silly games just to avoid a perceived sign of weakness? People have better things to do than stare back.
If something bothers you, you should do something about it. Either ask them not to stare or just give them a taste of their own medicine. There is no reason to feel uncomfortable on your own property.
It's not to avoid a "perceived sign of weakness". It's to let them know they're bothering you in a non-verbal manner.
But anyway, I'm just posting my opinion. Given your apparent philosophy, I'd think you have better things to do than harry other people on theirs. Don't you have something better to do?
They are just sizing up their next meal. Nothing to worry about.
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