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Its tough to terminate a relationship with a family member or close friend but sometimes it has to be done to save what little sanity you have left. Im on the edge & its getting worse but i am maintaining my cool. The world is full of "haters".
I just had a big time argument with a relative & needless to say we will never talk to each other again. Its just something that has been brewing for years & i finally let loose & so did she. Has anyone else "terminated" their relationship with a relative (blood relative or step mom, step dad, etc) ?
I've never "terminated" a relationship with a relative...though I've been mighty angry before......but as time goes by, the anger becomes less...and then forgiveness sets in...which really is the best thing for ones own peace and well being....at least that's what I've found.
My step mother hasnt treated us like family in years. Maybe because we arent blood related. Some steps (mom,dad,bro & sis) are like that. I havent talked to or seen her 2 kids in years & dont really care to. They are quite selfish. Thanks for all the posts & advice. As far as im concerned its over.
Yep. I asked my sister to stop calling me when she was drunk. She didn't take it well.
She hasn't spoken to me in several months. OTOH, I felt it was high time someone told her that the drunk dialing was not appreciated.
Yes I have after years of trying to have a civilized relationship. In my case it was the smartest and most healthy thing I could have done years ago. I know though I forgave and gave it my best effort before chucking it.
OP, you did the best you could for yourself. Of course, I love the positive advice from other posters but I do have to say this.
I wrote a letter to a relative that basically made clear what everybody knew, that she didn't like me.
It was really the first time in my life that I felt like I needed to do that. My point is that sometimes experience really is the best teacher and up until that point, I was not forced to interact with a person who clearly showed she didn't like me.
So I wrote her the letter and now she claims that she doesn't care ever since I wrote that letter. That if that was what I wanted, I got it. Ha! What she doesn't realize is that they way she behaves now after the letter was how she behaved before the letter.
There is only one difference. She knows I am not afraid to be more proactive.
My overall point: people don't change so we have to be more proactive in caring for ourselves instead of just tolerating other people's behavior. Hopefully, anger won't be allowed to build up.
It was very stressful around my step mother over the years. We always had to be cautious of our words cause she would often use them against us. Working for her was tough but ill NEVER work for or with a relative again (ex relative too). Our relationship is officially over & i think my fathers as well. I have rarely talked to or seen my father over the yrs anyways. When i did try i got the run around or some excuse. Im used to it.
My step mother hasnt treated us like family in years. Maybe because we arent blood related. Some steps (mom,dad,bro & sis) are like that. I havent talked to or seen her 2 kids in years & dont really care to. They are quite selfish. Thanks for all the posts & advice. As far as im concerned its over.
I see alot of problems with steps because some people want to think of them as family. They have their own family. They have parents, aunts, uncles, brothers, sisters, and cousins that are nothing to you. People keep forgetting that no ones marriage adds relatives, including your own. (in laws are not relatives)
My sister married a man with kids. I am not their uncle and they are not my nieces and nephews. We get along great. We aren't related and don't act like we are.
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