Let bygones be bygones?

[Ted Bear]

One more note to the OP: There is nothing in the rules of life that says you have to stay in touch with family just because they are family.

People guilt trip you, or you guilt trip yourself, into thinking that "oh this is my brother, or my dad, or my aunt...I should like them or maintain an open relationship with them."

Hooey.

If it is hurting you in some way to keep the door open, or if you have been the subject of inappropriate behaviors in whatever form, and you feel like you need to move on without apologizing or reconciling or letting bygones be bygones, just move on. Don't feel guilty. Life is WAY too short to carry this baggage.

[cdnirene]

Originally Posted by luckygirl15

I know we are supposed to move on but it's hard when you feel like no one cares about how you feel.

We are all entitled to our emotions. The reality is that if people don't care about how you feel, there is nothing you can do to make them care, except to change your behavior or personality so they feel closer to you emotionally. Otherwise I suppose you could try to guilt them so they may pretend to care. However, is that what you want?

I am assuming of course that you have told them how you feel and they have continued to show no sympathy or no attitude change towards you.

I do have a question. How pleasant are you to be around when with family members i.e. do you complain a lot or are you upbeat?