What I wrote to my friend who is an addict

[Blondebaerde]

Originally Posted by BornOver

"If you want real support let me know but i am not going to bars with you anymore. I am seeing a pattern that has destroyed others repeat itself and I'm not going to encourage it or enable it. Believe me this is a tough thing for me to put out there but I have to not only for you but for me as well because I am not comfortable watching you destroying your life."

Dunno what is going to come of this, I may even regret writing it in the morning but..I dunno. I'm out of options and he refuses to let anyone help him.

Search "intervention" and what that entails.

Came close to doing one on a buddy of mine, c. seven years ago, but in the end he reached his own realization the behavior was destructive. He got off several substances, which he enjoyed but didn't have a deep hold on him after all (psychological vs. physical). A divorce and bankruptcy came not long after, ironically: damage had been done. But he stuck with it, I guess. Fell out of touch a couple years ago, we no longer have (had) anything worthwhile in common.

When I stopped drinking, decades ago, had to change out many friends. That's part of it, from the other end: some friends stay, others go. For good reason.

It's hard. Stand fast!

[nightlysparrow]

Originally Posted by BornOver

may even regret writing it in the morning but..I dunno. I'm out of options and he refuses to let anyone help him.

I imagine you would regret it more if he died from his addiction, and you had said nothing.

[BornOver]

Originally Posted by nightlysparrow

I imagine you would regret it more if he died from his addiction, and you had said nothing.

of course

[Red_Devil]

Dying is easy. The scary part is ending up in prison or watching your friend physically and mentally deteriorate to someone you no longer recognize.