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Old 04-29-2014, 12:54 PM
 
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But that is because of the way YOU set them. It goes back to it being your responsibility to turn off your sound when you don't want to be disturbed.
I want to be able to hear the text messages I receive, even in the middle of the night. Occasionally, they are important. If it's not important, send an email. Most people get to those with no urgency
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Old 04-29-2014, 03:16 PM
 
Location: On the corner of Grey Street
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In general, I think it is up to the individual to keep their phone quiet if they don't want to be disturbed. I try not to text or call people when I think they are sleeping out of courtesy, but in this case it was an accident, and I think this situation falls a little outside of the norm because OP isn't working a typical 8 to 5 kind of day job. I turn my phone to silent at night if I don't want to be bothered. Most phones have a feature that will allow you to adjust who can call you, and you could even be old school and have a home phone. My parents have one and I know I can reach them on that in the middle of the night if there's an emergency. The only communication I see as expecting an immediate response is a phone call. Otherwise, I respond to texts and e-mails as I have time.
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Old 04-29-2014, 03:51 PM
 
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I want to be able to hear the text messages I receive, even in the middle of the night. Occasionally, they are important. If it's not important, send an email. Most people get to those with no urgency
Most people get texts with no urgency too. If someone wants my attention in the middle of the night, they better call.
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Old 04-29-2014, 05:02 PM
 
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Most people get texts with no urgency too. If someone wants my attention in the middle of the night, they better call.
Texts are typically viewed as a more immediate form of communication than email. If I send someone a text, I expect that if they are available, they will respond right back. If I send an email, it wouldn't surprise me if it takes a while to reply. If there were no difference in the perceived speed of communication, then we would all just email. Why bother texting if it's not more immediate?
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Old 04-29-2014, 08:40 PM
 
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I think it would have been kind of you to explain how you had expected to send it in the morning but had accidentally sent it. It does not matter where they had their phone, didn't have the phone ringer off or not, nor that they complained. They complained because they were interrupted it. Yes, you could let them know that nighttime emails interrupts your sleep if that bothers you. Do it now, while you have the attention on texting/ emailing during late nights.

You could still apologize- not for a wrong-doing but for not expecting to have sent it. It keeps the peace and is the polite thing to do.
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Old 04-29-2014, 09:20 PM
 
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I want to be able to hear the text messages I receive, even in the middle of the night. Occasionally, they are important. If it's not important, send an email. Most people get to those with no urgency
If I get a middle-of-the-night text, there better be broken limbs or massive blood loss involved.
Otherwise apologize and I'll forgive you, just once.
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Old 04-29-2014, 10:54 PM
 
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Big deal a text went out in error in the middle of the night...Woop Woop... My co-worker was calling me non-stop at 6 am asking me to cover for her that day...she was afraid of not getting coverage and getting trouble and we laughed it off. People need to lighten up and stop trying to pretend they are so proper and never make small errors.

They need to get over it already, how many times are you suppose to apologize. What a bunch of tightly wound seahags.
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Old 04-30-2014, 03:36 AM
 
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My phone is always on the table next to my bed because I want my family to be able to reach me at any time. So...a text would wake me. I wouldn't be mad, just scared to receive one in the middle of the night.

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Old 04-30-2014, 04:21 AM
 
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If you really thought it was no big deal you wouldn't have gone "oh crap" when you sent it, nor apologized. The people you texted have a right to be irked, and you have no business now trying to justify the badly timed text by blaming them for being "too attached" to their phones. I would be more annoyed by the attempt to blame someone else for your mistake than the actual mistake itself.

You made a mistake, it is not appropriate to text people, especially employees, in the middle of the night, you apologized, and that should be the end of it.
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Old 04-30-2014, 04:29 AM
 
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I am not ticked. I am surprised. Please don't confuse my interest in this concept and some mental masturbation talking about it as some festering need to be right.
I have no interest in bothering anyone. Just fascinated that there are unspoken rules that can be broken under some circumstances and not others.
Actually, it is clearly that.

It is not an unspoken rule, it is basic common sense and courtesy. Texts use a phone, they are not email, and it is basic common courtesy to use email for things such as this rather than to text someone in the middle of the night. And under what circumstance is it a courtesy that can be acceptably "broken" by a co-worker?

If you wouldn't call in the middle of the night, don't text. It is ridiculous to expect people to deal with their phones in a manner you find acceptable just so you can blame them for what was a simple and small mistake on your part.

Your need to blame them for not turning of their phones, or sleeping with their phones nearby, not using their phones features according to your needs or being to attached to their phones is absolutely mind boggling and absolutely smack of the "need to be right". Stop blaming them.
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