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Originally Posted by CSD610
I don't have a sister but I'm sure I would be grateful that I did not have the added stress and expense of being part of the wedding party.
How in the world do you "come down with a severe mental illness"? It isn't like Mental Illness is a virus that you catch one day.
Long story....Both of my sisters were supposed to get married around the same time. The one sister broke it off with the man she was gonna marry then started having issues with depression and schizophrenia. Around the time of my other sister's wedding, she had to go to a mental hospital.
Not having someone as a bridesmaid because of their looks is very shallow thing to do.
No doubt, but people self justify that type of shallowness all the time in the name of their agendas. I suspect the fact that you are not close is the reason that others (friends) were selected ahead of you.
If you were close then that might be worrisome but that is not the situation here.
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You yourself said you've hardly spoken to each other. Of course she would choose her friends over you.
Why are you upset about it, if you 2 dont even speak? Just move on. The day is about HER, not you.
Because I'm her sister. And yes, we do speak, just not much The friends she has as bridemaids, she doesn't have anything to do with anymore. Then she wants to have a closer relationship with me. Not happening
Because I'm her sister. And yes, we do speak, just not much The friends she has as bridemaids, she doesn't have anything to do with anymore. Then she wants to have a closer relationship with me. Not happening
I agree with you that she should have asked you. You are her sister and you have been a part of her life much longer then any friend. That said, don't hold a grudge. If she is opening the door to repair the relationship, let her in. See if you two can regain a real relationship with one another.
Long story....Both of my sisters were supposed to get married around the same time. The one sister broke it off with the man she was gonna marry then started having issues with depression and schizophrenia. Around the time of my other sister's wedding, she had to go to a mental hospital.
Okay, so she didn't "come down" with a severe mental illness she more than likely had signs of it already but hadn't been properly diagnosed and was not showing different behavior until after the break up of her engagement, that makes more sense.
Anyway, I wish you all healing and hope you get issues worked out between you.
My sister and I have a healthy, close relationship. I would be hurt not to be asked.
However, you and your sister were barely speaking at the time of her wedding so I'm not sure you should be surprised you were not asked. Were you two close at one point and then something happened to cause you guys not talk with one another regularly?
I've been married a long time. Although I don't consider myself particularly close to my sisters, as they are younger, and much closer to each other, I'm still glad I asked them to be in my wedding party. As I looked at the pictures today, I realized I'm still in touch with both sisters, but only 2 out of 4 friends. My DH is only in touch with family members who were in his side of the party, none of his old friends.
It may not matter on the day of the wedding, but it may make a difference years later.
I could see feeling hurt about her not asking you. I guess I would feel the same (until I realized how much money I was saving).
Why don't you invite your sister out to lunch and talk about it.
To be honest, if I got married again, I wouldn't have my sister or anyone in the family be in my wedding. I don't have much in common with them at all. I would only invite them because I had to.
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Originally Posted by CSD610
Okay, so she didn't "come down" with a severe mental illness she more than likely had signs of it already but hadn't been properly diagnosed and was not showing different behavior until after the break up of her engagement, that makes more sense. yes
Anyway, I wish you all healing and hope you get issues worked out between you.
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Originally Posted by HokieFan
My sister and I have a healthy, close relationship. I would be hurt not to be asked.
However, you and your sister were barely speaking at the time of her wedding so I'm not sure you should be surprised you were not asked. Were you two close at one point and then something happened to cause you guys not talk with one another regularly?
we never got along well growing up.
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