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I resisted reading this post because I just didn't think it was really much of an issue. However, reading the OP's post, I can see his point. I know that I hear things like the man must be gay or be a womanizer or have issues, but I never thought that maybe it was just a life choice and that it's just another way of being.
OP, be who you are and don't worry about what others think about you. If they talk or discriminate against you, there's not much you can do. Just be yourself, treat others kindly, and try to remember that its what YOU think about yourself that really matters.
I resisted reading this post because I just didn't think it was really much of an issue. However, reading the OP's post, I can see his point. I know that I hear things like the man must be gay or be a womanizer or have issues, but I never thought that maybe it was just a life choice and that it's just another way of being.
OP, be who you are and don't worry about what others think about you. If they talk or discriminate against you, there's not much you can do. Just be yourself, treat others kindly, and try to remember that its what YOU think about yourself that really matters.
Wishing you well.
Or he just hasn't found the right person. Like my type is not available right now which is
I don't think having some co-workers and other acquaintances make some unfair assumptions about you is really the same thing as being "discriminated against."
There are plenty of folks in the world who habitually make unkind and usually incorrect assumptions about other people...be they single men in their 30's, women who have decided not to have children, people who are overweight, people of a different nationality, religion, or ethnic background, or people who have a different sexual orientation than they do...these people are not picking on YOU, they are negative, judgemental jerks and they pick on ANYONE and EVERYONE who doesn't fit in with their beliefs about what is "normal," "good," or "right." Unfortunately, many of the people who are likely to assume and judge first and ask questions later (if at all) somehow wind up in positions in which their unkind and often errneous conjecture can have a real impact on the lives of others.
This sucks, however, unmarried, childless men in their 30's, 40's, and on up are hardly the only ones affected by it. In fact, I would be shocked if they felt anywhere near the same amount of silent judgement and barely controlled hostility as most childless, single women in their 30's and 40's get from damn near everyone pretty much every day. And still, it's not discrimination. It's unpleasant, inappropriate, disgusting, frustrating, and even infuriating, and it's messed up that some holier-than-thou, mean people are allowed to negatively impact the lives of others with their narrow-mindedness and ignorance.
Sometimes, things just suck. Stop letting these people take up so much space in your head. They only have as much control over your happiness (or lack thereof) as you choose to give them.
Being single is not a disease, not a mental illness, nor is it a crime. The married majority of the society, especially those with children who think they are so mature and grown-up, shouldn't really paint all singletons in black with a broad stroke of discrimination. Not all singletons want to be single. Some have no choice but to remain single for various reasons, health issue for example.
Singletons are not bad persons. Why are they almost always perceived as suspicious, dangerous and potential trouble makers by simply being alone or quiet? I suppose ignorance spreads fear and creates paranoid. This is especially true in a close-minded and oppressive society, where people are more easily to be manipulated and cross-influenced by each other, and where herd mentality runs wild. It seems there is no shortage of fear mongers within that kind of society.
No, this is not "in my head", nor is it an "issue of self-confidence". This is really happening out there, though fortunately not in every society in the world, just some of the over-traditional and backward thinking ones. This wouldn't happen in a progressive and truly modernized society, where people's mind are occupied with far more important things than paying attention to singletons, or worrying what they are doing and how they live their lives.
You have one important fact very wrong. Married people are no longer the majority in American society. The number of single individuals in the U.S. has grown consistently and 2014 is the first year in which single people make up more than half of the adult population for the first time. Yes, indeed. The number of never married, divorced, and widowed people added together now make up 50.2% of Americans over the age of 16. Is Everybody Single? More Than Half the U.S. Now, Up From 37% in '76 - Bloomberg
In fact, the majority of U.S. households have not been headed by married couples since 2005 and today there are more than 31 million Americans who live completely alone — no children, no other dependents, no roommates, no live-in lovers. The majority live in urban areas, so if you live in a small town or the suburbs you might not encounter that many on a daily basis. But we are here in huge numbers from coast to coast. Many of us are very happy and have consciously chosen this lifestyle over other alternatives. There is economic discrimination against single people but other stigmas might well be in the minds of people who are living alone but wish they weren't. In fact, there are many advantages to living the single life.
Single people are more likely to go out of the house to socialize, instead of cocooning at home with spouses and/or children, singles are the lifesblood of urban society. Singles eat out more often, go to events more often, volunteer more often, and participate in community life through politics and neighborhood activities more often than married people do. Many churches and social service organizations report they couldn't function without the volunteer labor provided by single people.
I take the attitude that if people are single and bored (or lonely), it's their own fault and they need to make some simple life changes to improve the situation.
While married people may be a minority, it is still earth shattering news to the media that people are getting married later if at all and we have a declining birthrate. It is treated like a national tragedy that we are not acting like or parents or grandparents.
That's why it makes sense to have the superbowl on saturday night instead of sunday
But it isn't and I doubt the day after well be a holiday. My suggestion to you and others who are complaining about the super bowl being a Sunday, take responsibility for it. I live in Arizona, the game starts two hours earlier and I don't have problems. I also don't drink too much during the game either, even when Peyton Manning is getting beat. You can always sleep later on Sunday our sleep earlier on Monday and just not drink too much during the game.
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