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school = $$$$. and wont put myself in debt. Im not very smart.
You articulate well so you are certainly not stupid. Take that from someone who also used to think they were not very smart only to discover later in life that they have a 135 IQ. Hardly stupid. How smart you are has little bearing on what you can achieve. Believing in yourself and making a effort to improve is within the reach of anyone who does not allow the opinions of others to hold them back. You have allowed your handicap and the way people treat you to convince you that you are not smart. Trust me you are capable of more than you think. Yes school costs money but there are programs out there to help people with disabilities get training so that they ca get off of government assistance and gain job skills. Yes you might acquire some debt. But you will also acquire skills to get a job that pays enough that you can pay it off.
no the fact they were making fun of me staying there turned me off. Instead of being supportive, they cut me down. Its hard getting a job without a degree that I can support myself on
Even the best parents in the world find it hard not to mock when their adult offspring are so obviously doing stupid, childish things in order to seek pity and gain attention. Think of it as their effort to deter you from being a silly, self-centered drama queen.
You think they should have been "supportive" while you pretended to be a homeless person?
Have you even once considered that perhaps your parents would love a break from the years of sheltering, taking care of, being responsible for YOU?! It would be like a couple of nesting birds having to deal with a overgrown/fully grown/oversized offspring taking up space and resources in the nest meant for just the pair, and/or new/small/young nestlings.
I'm really surprised they've been as nice and accommodating as they have!
Even the best parents in the world find it hard not to mock when their adult offspring are so obviously doing stupid, childish things in order to seek pity and gain attention. Think of it as their effort to deter you from being a silly, self-centered drama queen.
You think they should have been "supportive" while you pretended to be a homeless person?
I couldn't afford a place to live and was thinking of moving out at the time. I don't see how that's attention seeking?
I don't really like being around people anymore. Sure feel like an odd duck being around people when I've never dated a man being 35yrs. old. On top of that being very passive and socially awkward doesn't help. People say "practice makes perfect" when it comes to interacting with others and making friends.... Not the case with me. Often, I get these feelings of guilt and shame when putting myself out there
You have convinced yourself you can't do it OP. You haven't convinced us.
If you're socially awkward, then start small by volunteering, maybe at an animal shelter. Animals won't care that you have hearing difficulties or don't like being around people. You'll gain some confidence, and can think about your next step.
I couldn't afford a place to live and was thinking of moving out at the time. I don't see how that's attention seeking?
Because it was not necessary for you to move into a homeless shelter since you--you know--HAD A HOME. But you had to make sure to let everyone in your family know exactly what you were planning to do because things were so *sob sob* unbearable *sob sob.* You were looking for a reaction and you got one.
Here's a hint. If you don't want to come off like an attention seeker, keep your dysfunctional activities to yourself.
Do you think they just popped out of the womb like that? Or perhaps they had good enough parents who taught them and brought them up in a way that they would be able to take on the world easily.
Not at all, but at what age does she need to take some personal responsibility to make changes if she is unhappy living at home? The point is SHE can MOVE if SHE is so unhappy, where the parents can NOT! It is THEIR home and they are STUCK WITH AN UNGRATEFUL CHILD LEACHING OFF OF THEM and whining about it. Either be grateful and happy where you are planted, or make the changes in YOU to make YOUR world better, but at her age, it is time to QUIT BLAMING YOUR PARENTS who are decent enough not to throw you out.
Stayed in a homeless shelter to see how she would "like being on her own"? REALLY????
I bet if we could ask the parents, they would be THRILLED if she got out on her own...and SHE would probably be just as unhappy, but would have no one to blame it on so stays in her parents home so she can blame them.
Go back and read the original post. SHE is unhappy, THEY are all at fault, SHE is the victim.
Because it was not necessary for you to move into a homeless shelter since you--you know--HAD A HOME. But you had to make sure to let everyone in your family know exactly what you were planning to do because things were so *sob sob* unbearable *sob sob.* You were looking for a reaction and you got one.
Here's a hint. If you don't want to come off like an attention seeker, keep your dysfunctional activities to yourself.
so you would say the same for an abused woman trying to escape? Just a scenario.
so you would say the same for an abused woman trying to escape? Just a scenario.
I am not seeing the connection.
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