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She must be one of those people that think "blood is thicker than water". It just bugs me that her sister got involved with him as well and they seem to get along when I see them
Mostly people don't just "think" blood is thicker than water, it just is, independent of conscious thought or deciding to feel that way.
You are seeing her relationship with her sister from the outside, not from the inside. They may not be as close as they once were because of what happened, but they may still want to get past it or continue to interact because they are family. A friend is expendable, a sister not so much.
Because we choose our friends, they are often called to a higher degree of loyalty and conduct than family members. You blew it, you can't get it back. Time to accept that this friendship is over, and move on.
Some time ago, I got heavily involved with a childhood friend of mine and her relationship that ended in me cheating with her ex-fiancee. Fast foward 4 years later, I still wish I could take it all back. I admitted my wrongdoings and deeply regret doing what I did.
She only talks to me briefly if we happen to run into each other. Rarely, she will answer my texts.
I don't talk on phone.
I mailed her a Valentine's Day card last week.... Not even a response.
She has blocked blocked me on FB. Although shes "friends" with members of my own family which stings and hurts.
The whole irony of this is he had also cheated on her with her sister. And her and the sister are still friends talking to each other
I think she has made her wishes clear. You have apologized, there is nothing more you can do. Accept her decision.
Mostly people don't just "think" blood is thicker than water, it just is, independent of conscious thought or deciding to feel that way.
You are seeing her relationship with her sister from the outside, not from the inside. They may not be as close as they once were because of what happened, but they may still want to get past it or continue to interact because they are family. A friend is expendable, a sister not so much.
Because we choose our friends, they are often called to a higher degree of loyalty and conduct than family members. You blew it, you can't get it back. Time to accept that this friendship is over, and move on.
Mostly people don't just "think" blood is thicker than water, it just is, independent of conscious thought or deciding to feel that way.
You are seeing her relationship with her sister from the outside, not from the inside. They may not be as close as they once were because of what happened, but they may still want to get past it or continue to interact because they are family. A friend is expendable, a sister not so much.
Because we choose our friends, they are often called to a higher degree of loyalty and conduct than family members. You blew it, you can't get it back. Time to accept that this friendship is over, and move on.
That's what I was thinking.
Her sister is obviously family. You can't chose your family. And if she dumped her sister, it would probably cause rift with the parents and other family members. So, the relationship may be forever strained, but as family they have to find a way to make things work, lest they split the family in some ways.
A friend is someone you can chose makes them a bit more special because you opened up and allowed them into your life with trust, and they took advantage and blew it. And because she doesn't have blood ties to you, you messing up made you disposable.
You have apologized, and she doesn't forgive you, and after 4 years, it's possible she never will. So you'll have to move on and forget her. And if it's that horrid for you, save money and move out of that small town.
Last edited by HappyRain; 02-16-2015 at 11:11 AM..
I would forgive the person but I wouldn't want to be friends with them anymore.
The trust is broken and I wouldn't be able to forget that. It would be a slap in the face every time I see them. Especially if they sent me a valentine.
A true friend wouldn't do such a thing, so theres nothing to forgive.
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