Would you kick an unemployed relative out of your house? (wedding, narcissistic)
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As I have pointed out to you before, it all depends on the job. Women return to the job market all the time, and manage to find work. A lot of them are in their 40s and overweight, but they still manage. Some of them have a felony conviction on their record, but they still manage. It is not productive to just dismiss someone as useless.
Well wouldn't it be nice if people all hired 40 something 300 pounders with no particularly valuable work skills/education??? I think the point is -what is realistic- and in this case, people have said on this thread, that they are NOT being hired, for whatever reasons or risks perceived by personnel offices.
Where do you live where only thin people have jobs?
My bs meter is going off. You keep adding relevant details piece by piece.
I'll play along.
The gift card is a bad idea. At this point you will have to legally evict her. Seems pretty obvious to me.
Have you checked out the tenant laws in your state?
Even though it's obvious this woman is helpless , vulnerable,at wit's end, and without resources, and can't figure out what to do for herself, you are still advocating that her BROTHER dump her out in the street. Really? and not even a $1000 card to help her survive for the next month ? Well what if he can afford it?
wow. I just can't believe some people's heartlessness. all these people are thinking about is "tenant laws" "eviction" etc. wow. no wonder this country has a million homeless, in the land of plenty, where cold hearts rule and people treat family worse than dogs.
Boy oh boy....this has changed for me... from a freeloader, jumping from free house to free house/ user I first thought she was
to a pitiful person in need of some real help!
As in, "Sis, we have a problem here...would you consider us finding some help
for you... to get you outta your depression and eating problem,(that no one has mentioned to you)?"
Some counseling could deal with the real issues...who knows the traumas
that lay inside her, poor thing!
Please ignore my earlier post thinking she was just some 'user'!!!
Mea culpa.
I suspected she needed some help, and the next thing the brother should do, unless he is a worthless coldhearted jerk, (or the woman herself, or the brothers' wife could do this) is to get on the phone and call social services, for disabled/elderly. NOT usually the same office for family/kids services.
They can give info about what is available for her. BUT what she really needs FIRST is a good counseling clinic, some are free for the poor, and this is important because their diagnostics are what can help people get any sort of assistance from the state. SHE NEEDS ADVOCACY.
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JUST A REMINDER, this is HIS SISTER! and she does NOT know how to survive obviously. She could die on the streets as thousands of homeless Americans do, whose families are hateful, destructive, cold and negligent, and couldn't care less whether it's right or wrong.
SHAME! SHAME ! SHAME!
I'm sorry but, this brother's wife and (other family members) seem also like part of the problem here- what's wrong with her, she has to throw her sister in law out into the street? really??????????? what comes around goes around, ya know........ this is all bad news and bad karma, it's gonna be a you know what. (beotch)
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Mental hospitals are full of homeless using them as shelter because they refuse to go to an actual shelter. This helps no one.
oh like they just admit homeless people into mental hospitals who have NO mental problems... right. NOT.
If she has ANY sort of depression symptoms--- the crying, and helplessness, lack of initiative, no energy, sleeping long hours, are all signs of depression. She may have depression/anxiety or other issues.
Overweight people are high risk for diabetes too. She needs a full diagnosis both mental and physical. Then go from there, the social services are definitely what she needs under the circumstances. People, stop trying to stuff this woman into your own shoes or your own perfectly functional sister's shoes, because she will NOT fit. One size does NOT fit all.
you can't throw family out into the street when they can't really function well enough to support themselves! that is cruel and inhumane, and people DIE from it by the thousands every year right here in the usa. Her health would REALLY spiral downward if she became unhoused.
She needs social services asap!
PS THE SHELTERS ARE ALWAYS FULL ALREADY! THERE ARE WAITLISTS TO GET IN! so she needs to apply for every benefit available. Hopefully get some, and do not give up on it if it takes multiple tries.
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Would I hire an obese person that has not had a job in awhile to house
sit my pets or house clean?
Heck yeah....
Do I stow away my credit card receipts even from my neighbor when
she feeds my animals for a week...heck yeah.
Obese, male or female, age, have nothing to do with them house sitting, etc.
It's the feel for the person and who referred them.
I agree with this to an extent. I have an obese friend that I know would have a hard time looking after my toy dog as even just putting on her shoes is a big challenge. I'm not sure she would do well putting bowls up and down, changing water and all the lifting my dog needs, it's a fair amount of work if you're not fit.
One day she shared with me that she washed her bathroom floor the day before and it did her in for the whole day - that's something I'd do while chatting on the phone.
Every time my sister leaves her room my wife or I ask her when she is leaving. She looks away and starts crying and rushes back to her room. I suspect we are not going to get her to leave unless someone gets physical with her. She has not left the house for the entire time she has been with us so we can't move her things out physically. I talked to all family members and not one of them has agreed to put her up again or give any money for her to be bribed to leave. We are thinking of giving her $1000 in a VISA Gift Card to leave. Will that work?
In the case of this...if it is all true, the family needs to get their heads out of their butts and get her social services, mental health care and actually help her.
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