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Learn to play an instrument and join a pop band. Musicians never, ever are lonely unless they want to be, and even crappy local band members get laid frequently, especially the singers.
Been playing since I was 16. I'm an old guy now, but still love the peace and enjoyment of instruments.
Learning to play one is a great idea, you will really like it, imho.
I'm not really athletic, I've tried some sports but I wasn't very good. I am interested in learning how to play an instrument though. As for church, I'm not really religious.
If you get really good at playing an instrument, you can join a band and have a social life that happens organically as people will be interested in learning about you and being around you.
If I were you I would also lift weights. If you put the time and effort in, at your age you can get a fantastic body in a very short amount of time. Just that in and of itself will increase your confidence level. I also think just hanging out at the gym everyday will likely produce friends or at minimum, friendly acquaintances.
Last thing- you really should go to college. The way of the world is that when you get older, people will judge you for not having a degree. This is not right at all, but its reality. Also, it increases your chances for making money in the future; money= friends in this world. Also, no money= no friends.
I had a thought and wanted to share it with you, OP. Roll your eyes, flame me, whatever, but this is my opinion, based on my own life experiences, which don't include a lot of friends either.
At the end of the day - or at the end of life - people are going to let you down. Not intentionally necessarily, but they're all imperfect and that's what happens. There is only one who won't let you down and that's the Lord Himself. He never breaks a promise, He's always there (and everywhere), He loves you enough to die for you, which, by the way, he did already. I urge you to look to Him and develop that relationship first. After that things will fall where they may but you'll have a solid foundation to deal with life and you'll find friends who are like minded. I once heard someone say, about meeting fellow believers "the Jesus in me recognized the Jesus in her". Accept Him into your heart. It's such a simple, childlike thing. You'll never be alone and you'll see the joys of the world around you in a whole new way, which will cause people to like you even more.
My brother is the closest thing I have to a best friend. We're only two years apart so it's always been that way. He goes to a college that's far away, so it's not like I can spend that much time with him. We do usually go places when he visits though.
Let me get this straight:
1) Your brother, who is only two years older, is your best friend; and
2) Your brother is very popular and has many friends.
How come you never hang out with him and his friends before he went out to college? How come you and some of his friends who stayed can't hang out now?
You said he has hundreds of friends. If you hang out with them, you will click with at least one or two of them.
If you get really good at playing an instrument, you can join a band and have a social life that happens organically as people will be interested in learning about you and being around you.
If I were you I would also lift weights. If you put the time and effort in, at your age you can get a fantastic body in a very short amount of time. Just that in and of itself will increase your confidence level. I also think just hanging out at the gym everyday will likely produce friends or at minimum, friendly acquaintances.
Last thing- you really should go to college. The way of the world is that when you get older, people will judge you for not having a degree. This is not right at all, but its reality. Also, it increases your chances for making money in the future; money= friends in this world. Also, no money= no friends.
I do want to get in better shape and have a better body, so I'll definitely be working on that. As for college, I'm just not interested. Maybe one day, but just not now.
1) Your brother, who is only two years older, is your best friend; and
2) Your brother is very popular and has many friends.
How come you never hang out with him and his friends before he went out to college? How come you and some of his friends who stayed can't hang out now?
You said he has hundreds of friends. If you hang out with them, you will click with at least one or two of them.
We went to different schools and he hung out with his friends mostly at school. Also, it would be sort of awkward because they're older than me and I didn't know them. Now most of his friends that he talks to on a daily basis are at his college which is almost 100 miles from where I live.
I do want to get in better shape and have a better body, so I'll definitely be working on that. As for college, I'm just not interested. Maybe one day, but just not now.
Those are all good things, but regardless of how strong or handsome you are, and regardless how well educated you are, you are who you are underneath all that. Your soul is what people are attracted to, you'll make connections on whatever level you're at. Just get out there and start talking with people, it's as simple as a smile and saying "hi" to begin with. Maybe set some goals like this week say hi to 10 perfect strangers, next start a conversation with a pretty check out girl at the store, next try to keep a conversation going longer and longer, keep doing it until you get more comfortable talking to people. Ultimately, think about looking for a job that requires a lot of social skills, that's going to be your mountain. Now go conquer it.
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