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I'm just guessing, but there would probably be NO marriages on earth if you don't marry because you had a break up with your partner before marriage.
MOST couples go through at least one break-up, get back together again period in their relationship. Even after marriage, people separate and get back together. Being apart makes them realize just how much they mean to each other.
To the OP: If you're sure, then don't listen to your friends and enjoy your life with hubby!
I'm just guessing, but there would probably be NO marriages on earth if you don't marry because you had a break up with your partner before marriage.
MOST couples go through at least one break-up, get back together again period in their relationship. Even after marriage, people separate and get back together. Being apart makes them realize just how much they mean to each other.
To the OP: If you're sure, then don't listen to your friends and enjoy your life with hubby!
I'm just guessing, but there would probably be NO marriages on earth if you don't marry because you had a break up with your partner before marriage.
MOST couples go through at least one break-up, get back together again period in their relationship. Even after marriage, people separate and get back together. Being apart makes them realize just how much they mean to each other.
To the OP: If you're sure, then don't listen to your friends and enjoy your life with hubby!
I agree. Not 110%. But it's valid. Hubby and I were only together 9 months before we got engaged and got married almost a year later. We never broke up. We almost did once. What he did was terrible and I almost left (not cheating but worse to me). 5 years into our marriage we hit a really rough patch. I thought seriously about leaving. Not ending it totally but renting an apartment in my home town for 6 months. We patched things up. But my best friend and my mom held that against me for 5 more years. Until I stopped talking to them.
Friends and family..,they only really hear your cries. They don't always see your joy. And they don't always forgive your partner for doing you wrong.
I don't blame them. Sometimes it's valid. My close friend had a baby with a man. I caught him cheating on her (red handed when she was out of town). I saw him manipulating her. After a couple years they got back together. A few months later I got to hear how he was abusing her. I begged her to leave. Offering her a new home. She didn't. Several months later her daughter was molested by him and she quickly found out. Now I had him pegged for an abuser and cheater. But not a Pedophile. After prison time and programs we found out he is a full blown Pedo.
Anyways. There are arguments on both sides. But you have to trust in yourself to make the right choice. And then you friends need to be happy for you or step off
Last edited by HighFlyingBird; 11-15-2015 at 08:08 PM..
If your very closest friends aren't people you can trust and listen to to support your best interest, why are they your closest friends? Either you are terrible at picking friends are terrible at picking men.
Probably it's both. But usually when your friends and family are telling you not to marry somebody, it's a big red flag.
I'm just guessing, but there would probably be NO marriages on earth if you don't marry because you had a break up with your partner before marriage.
MOST couples go through at least one break-up, get back together again period in their relationship. Even after marriage, people separate and get back together. Being apart makes them realize just how much they mean to each other.
To the OP: If you're sure, then don't listen to your friends and enjoy your life with hubby!
Your story sounds like mine 40 years ago. We were young, although he graduated from college at 19 (yeah, he's smart :-) I was still in college, and having a good ol' time. We had one big break up while I was still in college that lasted 9 months. Back together for two or three years, but we were both dating others (we lived about 600 miles away from each other due to school and work). Then another break-up. That one lasted several months, we gradually resume contact, and then decided to get married. Year long engagement. Married.
Been very happily married for 33+ years. At that point, we were ready -- we had grown up, and we kept finding ourselves circling back to the one that had our heart.
Listen to your heart, but don't let your heart out-shout common sense. :-) As a side comment, you might want to consider seeking out a very, very good pre-marital counseling course, one that includes open discussion on a wide variety of topics, and encourages good communication skills.
Sounds to me that your friends are jealous. Women in your age bracket can be petty and dramatic, especially if you are getting something that they don't have. How do your married friends feel? As someone else mentioned, you are the youngest and you are getting married out of turn. I was a young woman once saw this happen with engagements and pregnancies. Don't worry about it, ignore their comments, live your life and congratulations!
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saw this happen with engagements and pregnancies. Don't worry about it, ignore their comments, live your life and congratulations!
