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You wanna avoid Thanksgiving with your roommate's family because of their Religious views? I would be verrryyy shocked if you vote democrat Why, those people are nothing but tolerant of everyone's faith!
You wanna avoid Thanksgiving with your roommate's family because of their Religious views? I would be verrryyy shocked if you vote democrat Why, those people are nothing but tolerant of everyone's faith!
??????? How is this helpful, on topic or even slightly relevant?
It would be very rude of you to come up with an excuse for not being able to attend the dinner, especially if it's something lame like not feeling well and wanting to stay in your room alone. They're trying to be nice to you. Reciprocate by being an appreciative dinner guest.
I would advise you to go to the dinner and be pleasant and helpful. Like others have said, you don't have to answer any questions that are awkward for you, nor do you have to divulge any information that you don't want to. You can listen without offering any opinions. It's easy to give vague, general answers to things you don't want to answer, and then pleasantly steer the conversation to something else.
You don't have to spend the whole day with them. Just help clean up after dinner, and then retire to your room.
There's no way you can hang out in your room all day after turning down the dinner invitation if you're all living in the same house! Just do the dinner and help with the cleanup. A few hours at the most; I'm sure you can handle that.
Getting out of invitations you've accepted is messy. Better not accept in the first place next time.
"i need some time to myself because I am so stressed"
"my doctor has put me on a restricted food plan due to GI distress" (throw in words like diarrhea, nausea, and vomiting, you will not have a problem with people inviting you anywhere)
"family problem, i need time to myself to process"
"i am doing a 24-hour (or 48-hour or 72-hour) silent retreat"
"i am now keeping kosher"
"I am going to go to the forest (or beach, or bay) to pray"
"my PTSD symptoms are worse around the holidays, i thought i could be around other people, but my therapist advises against it"
"family brings up emotional trauma for me"
Also when you write a blog that is against their religion.
I am doubting if this is even a real situation.
Who in their right mind moves into a house inhabited by people who belong to a religion that you "escaped" from. Wouldn't matter if the rent was a great deal. You have to cross paths with these people since you're all under one roof, never mind Thanksgiving dinner.
Doesn't make a lot of sense.
Yes, it is a real situation though - I didn't know they were a part of this group (although I had a sneaking suspicion in the interview, though I wasn't for sure...) I didn't find out for sure until several weeks of living there...I needed a place to live in 2 weeks...this place was the first place I looked at on craigslist and the price was right...Like I said we just kept it on the superficial.
Thanksgiving aside, why in the world would you choose to live with a family that has beliefs that you so vigorously disagree with that you blog about it? That in itself is quite dysfunctional.
For your own mental health, you really should find another place to live.
I didn't know they were actually a part of this group, until I had been living there several weeks...(I had a sneaking suspicion the mom was - based off of something the mom said in the interview, but I didn't know for sure.) Other than that, we have a lot of other things in common.
I don't usu use their WIFI to write the blog (although I haven't written on it for quite a while), I usu go to the public library, lol.
Doubtful, this wasn't a job interview. This is a rental in a private home, people can say/ask what they want.
When you move into someone's home many things are discussed by
both parties. It sounds like the OP was more focused on the low rent than anything else.
If this woman and her daughters are so into their beliefs you can bet at some point during the initial meeting this woman brought up her religion. She may not have asked the OP his/her beliefs but she brought up hers. That is when the OP should have said "thank you, I want to think about the room", and passed on moving in there.
The OP knowing this and being a former member of this religion in addition to writing a derogatory blog about this religion still let the low rent override common sense.
I certainly wouldn't be comfortable living under their roof, using their Wi Fi to bash their beliefs on my blog. What happens if/when they find out?
I do not think they could find out about my blog...possibly they could read it,but they won't guess it was me (it is anonymous..)
They are not going to find it because they are so "pro" into it (esp the mother) they will not be google searching any of the critical or negative things about it...
Plus, I have not written about *them* on the blog...Plus, my blog is not really that popular. It is just for me to tell people about.
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Why, those people are nothing but tolerant of everyone's faith!
