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I'm on the side of be gone or fake an illness. Some posters are saying dealing with uncomfortable situations is part of being an adult and that's true, but I believe that applies more to situations where you don't have a choice (like an order from your boss) but if you can avoid something like this you should. Your own home should be a sanctuary, particularly on a holiday. I think some people are underestimating just how psychologically stressful reminders of abuse can be, and just how forceful some religious proselytizers are. And some families really draw out the Thanksgiving dinner so it lasts all day. You know these people better than we do and if you think they're the type who won't be able to get through Thanksgiving without goading you, I'm giving you the benefit of the doubt. Your best bets are:
1. Say you're sick. This is more believable if you tell them the night before that you feel yourself coming down with something. The down side is that you really will have to stay in your room all day and you might grow tired of that. If they're any kind of polite people they're check on you or offer to bring you a plate. It would look weird if you
2. Spend the day away (they think you are at work). See a movie. Go shopping. Have a spa day. Hang at the park if you're in a warm place. Go to Barnes and Noble and read an entire book from start to finish.
So wrong. If the OP didn't want to participate, should have said no when first invited.
... and shouldn't have moved in with religious proselytizers.
Also when you write a blog that is against their religion.
I am doubting if this is even a real situation.
Who in their right mind moves into a house inhabited by people who belong to a religion that you "escaped" from. Wouldn't matter if the rent was a great deal. You have to cross paths with these people since you're all under one roof, never mind Thanksgiving dinner.
So wrong. If the OP didn't want to participate, should have said no when first invited.
The OP is entitled to change their mind. These people aren't friends and they aren't family. OP is under no obligation to have Thanksgiving dinner with these religious cult members.
The OP is entitled to change their mind. These people aren't friends and they aren't family. OP is under no obligation to have Thanksgiving dinner with these religious cult members.
Than don't move in with people who you think belong to a dangerous cult that you formerly belonged to.
Honestly, if this is even a real post the OP has bigger problems than worrying about Thanksgiving dinner.
Sooner or later this subject is going to come up, OP claims to be writing a blog on this group and bashing them, under their roof and using their Wi Fi....LOL.
OP shouldn't be living with these people period if they feel that strongly.
What's next on here "Hi I just joined Black Lives Matter, but my roommate belongs to the KKK"
All this time you have had no trouble with your landlady or her daughters; you even said you get along well with the younger women. Why do you think they're going to pounce on you now? Those who recommended you deflect any questions you'd rather not answer are right. Don't go hide in your room, that's silly. Dinner might not be terribly fun, but you accepted their invitation and they were probably just trying to be nice. I can't imagine having dinner with my family and NOT inviting someone who lived under my roof, leaving him or her alone behind a closed door. Make some small talk, ask what you can bring to the meal ... you'll be fine.
It would be a disaster if I attended their thanksgiving - they actually are a part of a religious movement that I USED TO be a part of - now I write an anonymous blog about my experiences within that movement, how dangerous it is, and how harmful this movement is to people's lives....I don't want to get onto that topic over Thanksgiving! (they do not know I write the blog) HELP! I found this place through craigslist and I really like living here though...
Thanksgiving aside, why in the world would you choose to live with a family that has beliefs that you so vigorously disagree with that you blog about it? That in itself is quite dysfunctional.
For your own mental health, you really should find another place to live.
Who in their right mind moves into a house inhabited by people who belong to a religion that you "escaped" from. Wouldn't matter if the rent was a great deal. You have to cross paths with these people since you're all under one roof, never mind Thanksgiving dinner.
Doesn't make a lot of sense.
My thoughts exactly.
Sounds like Scientologists.
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