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MIL is in town. She loves to go out to eat. However, she doesn't like to pay for everyone's meal. She wants to pay for the meal of the people she likes and doesn't want to pay for the meal of the people that she doesn't like.
There have been many awkward times when she announces to the server whose meal she will not be paying for and tells the server how to split the check in some odd fashion, which then just confuses the poor server. They are used to one check or separate checks, not 4 people on one check and 1 person on another check.
Since I'm one of the people she doesn't want to pay for the meal, I have no influence over her.
What do I do? I'm thinking that I'll eat at home by myself and save myself the embarrasement and awkwardness of weird check splitting and public announcements of who she will and will not pay for.
Wouldn't you have to explain to your husband/wife why you're not going? Is that going to cause more of a problem than the mild discomfort that her being weird with the server causes? I would be more concerned about why your spouse is not handling this behavior, either by telling her she is out of order or coming up with a way to avoid her pulling this BS, perhaps by offering to pay for everyone.
Wouldn't you have to explain to your husband/wife why you're not going? Is that going to cause more of a problem than the mild discomfort that her being weird with the server causes? I would be more concerned about why your spouse is not handling this behavior, either by telling her she is out of order or coming up with a way to avoid her pulling this BS, perhaps by offering to pay for everyone.
This. Your spouse should be setting her straight. No way would I let my parents treat my husband that way.
I would tell hubby and MIL why I will no longer be going out to eat with them. How rude! No way would I even subject myself to that
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