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What I mean by that is if someone asks for advice about something, or asks me what I think about something, I tell them, and then they go ahead and do what I advised them not to do. If it works out for them, that's great, but I really like it when it doesn't so I can say "Hey, I told you so! Should've listened to me!"
Basically, I love it when people think they know better and it ends up blowing up in their faces! People on the opposite side with cry "But I did what I wanted so that's what REALLY counts!" Sure, keep telling yourself that while you complain to me about things not going the way you wanted, or worse, expecting ME to swoop in and fix it after they didn't listen to me.
Nope. I don't take pleasure in my friends' hardships. I also recognize that when I offer advice (which isn't often, to be honest), they are adults who are free to make their own decisions, and we're all wrong sometimes, including me. And I wouldn't want my friends to rub my nose in it when I'm wrong. Why would I do that to them?
But more often than not, I offer suggestions for them to consider. I don't give advice. It's a fine line between the two, but there's a difference between "you could" and "you should."
You should feel bad for them that they are too stubborn or ignorant to listen to someone who knows better than they do. Delighting in their failure only makes you a sadist.
Nope. I don't take pleasure in my friends' hardships. I also recognize that when I offer advice (which isn't often, to be honest), they are adults who are free to make their own decisions, and we're all wrong sometimes, including me. And I wouldn't want my friends to rub my nose in it when I'm wrong. Why would I do that to them?
But more often than not, I offer suggestions for them to consider. I don't give advice. It's a fine line between the two, but there's a difference between "you could" and "you should."
Right on post!!!
Couldn't agree more.
OP...I find it sad that you find pleasure when your friends make the wrong choice....not sad for your friends though...saaaad for you!
What I mean by that is if someone asks for advice about something, or asks me what I think about something, I tell them, and then they go ahead and do what I advised them not to do. If it works out for them, that's great, but I really like it when it doesn't so I can say "Hey, I told you so! Should've listened to me!"
Basically, I love it when people think they know better and it ends up blowing up in their faces! People on the opposite side with cry "But I did what I wanted so that's what REALLY counts!" Sure, keep telling yourself that while you complain to me about things not going the way you wanted, or worse, expecting ME to swoop in and fix it after they didn't listen to me.
Does anyone else ever feel like this?
Wow, you sound like a great friend! Asking for advice is simply asking for opinions, then the person takes those opinions and weighs them against their own to come to their own decision. Why is your ego so wrapped up in people thinking you know best?
Wow, I'm glad we aren't friends. The idea that you "really like it" when your friends fail is just cruel.
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