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What I mean by that is if someone asks for advice about something, or asks me what I think about something, I tell them, and then they go ahead and do what I advised them not to do. If it works out for them, that's great, but I really like it when it doesn't so I can say "Hey, I told you so! Should've listened to me!"
Basically, I love it when people think they know better and it ends up blowing up in their faces! People on the opposite side with cry "But I did what I wanted so that's what REALLY counts!" Sure, keep telling yourself that while you complain to me about things not going the way you wanted, or worse, expecting ME to swoop in and fix it after they didn't listen to me.
Does anyone else ever feel like this?
No. I don’t have a elated gleeful euphoric feeling when someone fails. Regardless if I gave them advice or not. You seem satisfied and happy to tell people “I told you do”. Why would you feel elated when someone fails?
I see why. You’re the type who feels validated when you’re right. So you’re probably the guy who always has to be right and you are most likely depressed when their decision works out for them and your advice wasn’t taken in account.
Alan Sherman, the 1960’s precursor to Weird Al Jankowitz, had a song called “Good Advice.â€
Some of the lyrics were:
Good advice costs nothing and it’s worth the price
I do not feel happy to see someone fail. If they want my opinion or my experience regarding a similar situation I’ll give it to them but they can do with it what they like. Giving advice is not giving a command to the recipient to act upon whatever information you’ve shared with them.
What I mean by that is if someone asks for advice about something, or asks me what I think about something, I tell them, and then they go ahead and do what I advised them not to do. If it works out for them, that's great, but I really like it when it doesn't so I can say "Hey, I told you so! Should've listened to me!"
Basically, I love it when people think they know better and it ends up blowing up in their faces! People on the opposite side with cry "But I did what I wanted so that's what REALLY counts!" Sure, keep telling yourself that while you complain to me about things not going the way you wanted, or worse, expecting ME to swoop in and fix it after they didn't listen to me.
People with any amount of emotional intelligence give advice (when asked) with
an understanding that the person asking will weigh that advice with other
input and their own thoughts and come up with what they decide is best.
To assume you are always right and everyone should do exactly what you suggest
is controlling and narcissist.
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You have to hand it to him for being honest. Truly. Not many people will say something so ugly about themselves. But you sure hear a LOT of people say, "well, I hate to say it, but I told you so". And they sit there pretending they actually hate to say it, which they don't. Or they'd keep their big mouths shut. He actually admits it - he enjoys it when he's given people advice, and they didn't follow it, and now they're suffering. So he's a half step ahead in character from those numbskulls who deny they love to say I told you so.
As Mordin noted, schadenfreude is a real thing. Taking pleasure in the misfortune of others.
I'm the opposite. If someone asks me for advice (even something as small as a good book to read or a good recipe or a house painter) I kind of fret thinking they'll take my advice and it won't work out for them. Probably most of us are like that.
I'm the opposite. If someone asks me for advice (even something as small as a good book to read or a good recipe or a house painter) I kind of fret thinking they'll take my advice and it won't work out for them. Probably most of us are like that.
Same here..and I usually say "I am just throwing out this idea, it may or may not not fit your situation"
Surely OP is a troll, right? His post can't be serious.
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