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I had a falling out with my sister who lives out of state. I told her that I wasn't going to talk to her anymore and I didn't contact her. This was 5 years ago. She did visit my area with her family 3 years ago and used her kids to email me to set up a dinner. I went. And that was the last of it. It went fine. But I went because I felt bad to say no to the kids. They haven't been out since.
I just don't want to talk to her. She sent me an email saying that she will call the police if I don't talk to her at least 2 times a year. I know that it is BS that she can get the police involved legally, because I'm not sick and I am not crazy or wanting to kill myself. She brought it up a couple years ago, about calling the police and I said I'd contact the police about her. I've never been in a mental institution, or had a major illness or been suicidal. So it doesn't seem like a legit thing to do. Anyway, I don't want to respond, but I don't want the police showing up and making a scene or breaking the door down if I'm not home, so should I call the police in my city and let them know not to come out?
[quote=FelixTheCat;52527558]Because I would like the info, such as that she is going to call the police. Children are 2 yrs to 13... there are 6 now.
Bottom line, I don't want the police to show up and bother me or get the keys from my apartment manager. Privacy in my home is very important to me.[/QUOTE
What you are doing then is giving your sister access to you so she can threaten and bully you. It seems to be working. You can certainly let your apartment manager know that if there is an emergency they can contact a designated person, and nobody else. Police will do a welfare check if called but all you have to do is tell them she is harassing you and using the police to try and bully you into talking to her. That is not such a terrible thing because it will go on their report and if your sister tried to do it again they are going to ignore her or tell her off for wasting their time.
It might be prudent to send an email that states clearly that you wish to be left alone, that her constant threats are tantamount to stalking and you will seek legal means to deal with it. Then Block her email, keep a print out copy of the email you sent and IF the police do show up, you show then you have asked her to leave you alone.
It might be prudent to send an email that states clearly that you wish to be left alone, that her constant threats are tantamount to stalking and you will seek legal means to deal with it. Then Block her email, keep a print out copy of the email you sent and IF the police do show up, you show then you have asked her to leave you alone.
That's what I did the first time. But it happened again. I was just thinking I should call the police ahead of time.
Because I would like the info, such as that she is going to call the police. Children are 2 yrs to 13... there are 6 now.
Bottom line, I don't want the police to show up and bother me or get the keys from my apartment manager. Privacy in my home is very important to me.[/QUOTE
What you are doing then is giving your sister access to you so she can threaten and bully you. It seems to be working. You can certainly let your apartment manager know that if there is an emergency they can contact a designated person, and nobody else. Police will do a welfare check if called but all you have to do is tell them she is harassing you and using the police to try and bully you into talking to her. That is not such a terrible thing because it will go on their report and if your sister tried to do it again they are going to ignore her or tell her off for wasting their time.
Yeah, maybe I should talk to my apartment manager. It's a kind of weird conversation to start though.
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