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Someone asked if my mom and I were sisters. My mom is 77 and I’m 48. Does that mean I look older than 48? My mom maybe looks 65 but not any younger. It really gets to me. I don’t feel like I look that old but nobody ever says I look young when I tell them I’m 48.
They just meant that you look a lot alike. It probably would have been more politic to say "are you related" but if you look less than 20 years apart, "sisters" is safer than "mother and daughter" in terms of level of possibly offending someone.
People think my dad and I are sister & brother all the time
His genes are way better than mine though im like the female version of him … he’s 75 & i’m 41 but ive been thru 2 divorces & a ton of stress. I have more grays than he does!!
He’s very youthful. I think he could pass for 50.
I don't know. If a new mother is out with her baby and someone asks her if she's the grandmother, I can see her feeling offended about that. And if someone asks a mom who is still carrying baby weight in her belly when she's due..and she's not pregnant..watch out.
Why is it thin skinned skinned for a middle aged woman to not appreciate her looks being compared to her elderly mother's looks?
I don't know. If a new mother is out with her baby and someone asks her if she's the grandmother, I can see her feeling offended about that. And if someone asks a mom who is still carrying baby weight in her belly when she's due..and she's not pregnant..watch out.
Why is it thin skinned skinned for a middle aged woman to not appreciate her looks being compared to her elderly mother's looks?
I think it's a waste of mental and emotional energy for anyone to care about what a rude stranger says about something so personal as how a person looks.
But I also acknowledge that, for many, it takes work and effort to get your mind to shrug that kind of thing off. It's worth it in the end though, learning to pfft other people's opinions about such personal stuff..
Some people are just that insecure, they take everything personally.
Or
Some people just are always looking for a reason to feel offended, because that's the way they go through life.
Some call it a chip on your shoulder, some call it being a professional victim, some call it thin skinned.
Someone asked if my mom and I were sisters. My mom is 77 and I’m 48. Does that mean I look older than 48? My mom maybe looks 65 but not any younger. It really gets to me. I don’t feel like I look that old but nobody ever says I look young when I tell them I’m 48.
You would have to post pictures of the two of you to determine that.
Welcome to my life. My father was 20 and mom was 19 when they had me. My father had kids with a second wife, finishing at 43. When I first got out of the Army, we were in the mall with the 3 youngest. A lady approached to compliment ME on my children and my father on his grandchildren.
When my younger brother (7 years) was in high school I came to pick him up and asked another student to go tell him. My brother came out laughing said his friend told him his mom was here to pick him up.
Someone asked if my mom and I were sisters. My mom is 77 and I’m 48. Does that mean I look older than 48? My mom maybe looks 65 but not any younger. It really gets to me. I don’t feel like I look that old but nobody ever says I look young when I tell them I’m 48.
You are equating appearance with age in a situation where you should instead be equating appearance with your family genetics.
You and your mother's apparent ages has nothing to do with the other person's question about the family relationship between you and your mother. It means that you and your mother look like you could be siblings regardless of your respective ages. You and your mother bear a strong family resemblance that comes from your mother's side of the family. That's all it means.
If somebody said that you and your father look like you could be siblings would you think that means that they believe you look like an old man or that they believe your father looks like a young woman? Or would you just think it means that you and your father share a strong family resemblance that comes from your father's side of the family?
Don't make a mountain out of a mole hill.
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