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I dont know what to do with my Mother and brother, I have a rent house I let my Mom move into 8 years ago, i dont collect rent from her only the taxes witch are about $68.00 a month. She moved in my 48 year old brother who has not worked in 10 years and has a drinking problem, She get $598.00 a month from her SSI and thats what they live off of( also while hitting me up for money too) she buys his cigeretts and know i learned that he is drinking mouth wash and she feeding it to him, is this a classic case of munchausen disease. Know i feel like an enabler too, totaly stressed, I told my mom she has a place to live but not him , she refuses to leave him.WTF I feel like i'm takin crazy pills, my brother is forcing me to evict my Mother.What do I do?
Maybe you would get more responses on your situation, if you started your own thread about this, but my first instinct is that if he is "drinking mouthwash" then he needs some serious help!
Maybe you could sit your Mom down, and explain to her how dangerous it is for her to be feeding him mouthwash.. and how desperatly he needs help. Thats just crazy! If that fails, then you sit down with your brother, one on one, and talk to him! Maybe that would be even better. Wow! Good luck!
I've said it once, and I'll say it again. You cripple your children when you make their lives easy.
Hmm. Yes in a way. You need to hit your children to make them realise their mistakes. That way, they know not to screw up again and to fear authority. But that can only happen in their youth. If you start hitting when they are teens. Well, it work out anymore.
when mama and papa are gone the people left will not take care of each other, no they will not.
Its the American way of doing things. Families fall apart when the parents die off, normally. I don't see too many people with good sibling relationships so that leads to the end after the parents are dead.
I don't know what to do either... I know someone exactly like you describe... I told him to come over and live with me and I will find him a job personally... he refuses, he prefers to live with grandmom even though he doesn't have a job and says he rather live in a bigger city... WTF... I cleaned my hands of him and let him live his life, don't expect help from me... I offered, he refused... go get someone else to help you when you decide you want it... sometimes you just can't help people.... I felt sad for him cause he reminded me of me back then when I had no direction, I could have easily become what he is today... fate had a different road for me, I don't know why things happen like they did, but I am lucky enough to become successful... I just wish I could of help other family on the way but they rather I just give them money then improve their lives...
Why would you care what your 43 year old brother does or doesn't do, as long as he's not harming another living thing?
You're also an adult, so life your own life. If he wants to be a lazy bum, that's on him. And nothing you say or do is going to change him, count on that.
I agree your siblings need to worry about themselves, I would never evict my mother because of how she enables my brother - my mother is my priority and her son (my brother) is hers.
I know someone like this around the same age,who still living with his mother. I'm not even know if he's ever worked a day in his life. He's also a schizophrenic.
Just based on what you wrote, I'm apt to think the death may have affected him harder. He seems a little depressed, because it seems he was normal before this happened...but that's just my take.
Its the American way of doing things. Families fall apart when the parents die off, normally. I don't see too many people with good sibling relationships so that leads to the end after the parents are dead.
I care about my siblings like crazy; they're my little babies. I cannot imagine my life without them.
They better be glad I already have a french fry! haha
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and how desperatly he needs help. Thats just crazy! 
Wow! Good luck!
