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Your 16 year old, who recently finished her sophomore year of high school, wants to attend a "pit party" where alcohol will be present. For those of you city folk who do not know, a "pit party" is an outdoor party, usually a bonfire held in an out-of-way location (such as a gravel pit) to evade detection, where high school-aged teenagers gather to socialize and consume alcohol, usually with no adult supervision. Would you let her go if it is down the road from where you live (within walking distance)?
1. I wouldn't *let* my 16 year old go to any unsupervised party.
2. I wouldn't *let* my 16 year old go to any event where teenagers would gather to consume alcohol.
I wouldn't *let* anyone under the legal drinking age go to any party where I know, or are led to believe, alcohol will be made available to said child.
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Your 16 year old, who recently finished her sophomore year of high school, wants to attend a "pit party" where alcohol will be present. For those of you city folk who do not know, a "pit party" is an outdoor party, usually a bonfire held in an out-of-way location (such as a gravel pit) to evade detection, where high school-aged teenagers gather to socialize and consume alcohol, usually with no adult supervision. Would you let her go if it is down the road from where you live (within walking distance)?
I'm 22 and I think any parent who would allow this needs to be slapped. This is just asking for trouble.
Your 16 year old, who recently finished her sophomore year of high school, wants to attend a "pit party" where alcohol will be present. For those of you city folk who do not know, a "pit party" is an outdoor party, usually a bonfire held in an out-of-way location (such as a gravel pit) to evade detection, where high school-aged teenagers gather to socialize and consume alcohol, usually with no adult supervision. Would you let her go if it is down the road from where you live (within walking distance)?
I think it depends on the child. My (then 15) son purchased his pit pass for a rock concert last summer. It was an all day festival. I had lawn seats. I trust my son. He has no curiosity with alcohol. He has asked his friends about why they drink, they tell him to be free, loose inhibitions or something similar. Son say to me, "mom, I don't need to drink to be free or comfortable with who I am" He was offered many 'a beer in that pit, he turned them down politely. My son, yes I would allow him to go. But that is just him, I can see my youngest being more succeptible to peer pressure and the need to fit in, for that child, even at 18, no.
I think it depends on the child. My (then 15) son purchased his pit pass for a rock concert last summer. It was an all day festival. I had lawn seats. I trust my son. He has no curiosity with alcohol. He has asked his friends about why they drink, they tell him to be free, loose inhibitions or something similar. Son say to me, "mom, I don't need to drink to be free or comfortable with who I am" He was offered many 'a beer in that pit, he turned them down politely. My son, yes I would allow him to go. But that is just him, I can see my youngest being more succeptible to peer pressure and the need to fit in, for that child, even at 18, no.
I don't think it depends on the child. Bottom line: your son is underage. I don't care if he's the most mature teenager on the face of the earth. He is NOT an adult and it is YOUR responsibility to keep him from harm. Letting him go to pit parties is asking for trouble.
Children need boundaries. Also you can't control other people's behaviour. Your son may not start problems there but some drunk teen may decided to start a fight with him for no reason.
I could stick my head in the sand and refuse to give him the responsibility of making his own choices. Choices that in two short years he will not have to confer with me about. I could send him to college without the skills to deal with drunken frat brats.
No, I cannot control outside influences. Some drunk starts a fight, not with the skills my son has at avoiding conflict, but for the sake of argument.... have you ever seen a drunk fight? lol it is quite amusing.
Do I agree that there should be such parties, no I do not. But I am not going to ignore that they do happen. I can betcha that most kids don't ask permission to go such shin-digs, they just ask to stay over at Suzie's house.
My children do have boundries. They know where the line is. They know not to cross momma. But at my oldest's age, I am not going to be beside him every time he walks out the door. Until he does something to cause alarm (drnking is a big not gonna happen in my home), I trust him to take care of his own business.
I voted no. But then my kids wouldn't want to attend it!
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This is just asking for trouble.
