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Very sad. Because you don't want to punish the child for the actions of the parent. And sadly, those kids know their parents are bad. Sounds like this won't be the last of your issues with this family. The real question is what to do in the future.
Frustrating situation. Maybe you need to talk to the parent, and tell them that if you had to go, and their child was at your home, what would they like you to do? Get the name, phone number and address of about five people, and suggest a 24 hour day care facility, or "drop off 9hild" daycare. State that the child is welcome to play, but for only limited time frames, and you need to know what to do when the child is there, and the parent is not available as the case was this week. Have a firm plan in place, or state that the child will only be able to play when the parent is home. And maybe that is the best plan.
Last edited by jasper12; 04-18-2012 at 01:02 AM..
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No clue...he asked me this morning when he saw me if he could come over anyways and NOT play with my son. Gee, that really defeats the purpose of punishing my child for lying (again). So, I politely said "No, but you'll see each other in school."
What i would do is care for the 7 year old for as long as HE needed. But this is about you. You are angry about this, and who can blame you. but punish the parents not the child. call the police and report a crime. whose to say cps will provide him with anything better. talk with the child, find out if he has any other family. or talk to a local church. unwanted, mistreated children more often then not wind up in our prison systems. You have an opportunity to make a real difference in this boys life, and society as a whole will benefit from that. think of him as a reminder of just how blessed your kids and you are and show gratitude by making him feel wanted. it's the responsibility of us ALL to take care of the children, and we suffer the consequences when we don't.
I feel so sad for this boy - because it seems, everyone around him has failed him.
It's amazing nothing bad - has happened to him yet...
It pisses me off to no end that an adult knows a child is being abused and does nothing. In fact it infuriates me. It's like the poster who knew a cat was being abused and did nothing. Our most vulnerable creatures, human and nonhuman need to be protected. Too sad to even think about.
It pisses me off to no end that an adult knows a child is being abused and does nothing. In fact it infuriates me. It's like the poster who knew a cat was being abused and did nothing. Our most vulnerable creatures, human and nonhuman need to be protected. Too sad to even think about.
I know. That's why, I said - what I said. He's being failed left and right.
I would do all I can to help this boy. I wouldn't dump him outside, knowing he can't get into his home, supposedly being abused, etc. Knowing what's going on and doing nothing, is being just as guilty as doing the deed - in My Opinion..
Look what's going on in this world with kids being kidnapped, murdered.
I know. That's why, I said - what I said. He's being failed left and right.
I would do all I can to help this boy. I wouldn't dump him outside, knowing he can't get into his home, supposedly being abused, etc. Knowing what's going on and doing nothing, is being just as guilty as doing the deed - in My Opinion..
Look what's going on in this world with kids being kidnapped, murdered.
call the police or protective services - to protect yourself from future accusations.
give him a safe haven - temporarily
turn the situation over to the school -they asked you to step in somehow
find the grandparents, from the boy his school or emergency contact for the apartment buildings - something like that - and try to get the child to them.
officially notify apartment manager that a child is being left out on his own.
Perhaps I should say, you have talked to the police, school, or apartment manager but that is just talking. Put it in writing by name.
Dear principal/apartment manager/teacher. This is to notify you that ____ is ________ so that you can take appropriate action. Handwritten is fine but keep a copy for yourself.
If they have responded to your call and the child is being helped, great. This is just my suggestion. Good luck. It is a hard one.
call the police or protective services - to protect yourself from future accusations.
give him a safe haven - temporarily
turn the situation over to the school -they asked you to step in somehow
find the grandparents, from the boy his school or emergency contact for the apartment buildings - something like that - and try to get the child to them.
officially notify apartment manager that a child is being left out on his own.
Perhaps I should say, you have talked to the police, school, or apartment manager but that is just talking. Put it in writing by name.
Dear principal/apartment manager/teacher. This is to notify you that ____ is ________ so that you can take appropriate action. Handwritten is fine but keep a copy for yourself.
If they have responded to your call and the child is being helped, great. This is just my suggestion. Good luck. It is a hard one.
Excellent ideas!
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