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Ok...after weekend update. Child was here till mother came home on Friday. Came back Saturday morning stayed till lunch...came back an hour later stayed till dinner...came back 30 mins later and asked if he could have a sleepover because his little cousin was there and he needed the bed. Said no. Child stayed till about 8 pm. Back on Sunday morning (11 am because "he had a late night"). Ate lunch and dinner on Sunday because he said they didn't have anymore food. Left at 9 pm. Back at our place 6:30 am to walk to school with my son at 7:45 am.
This is getting ridiculous.
Now they are arguing about Harry Potter movies and making me quite angry because neither are getting it right because neither saw anything past movie 4....that aside, so happy this a school day.
I think you need a little starch in your spine and stop allowing the mom to use you as a free babysitting service. He doesn't need to spend all weekend with you. You don't have to allow it.
If the child can walk to your house, you can walk him back to his house. If the door is locked and he has no key, call CPS. Period.
Unless you want his company for your child and it does not appear that you do. It is pretty worthless to complain and complain to everyone else and do nothing specific and concrete to resolve the issue that you have.
Ok...after weekend update. Child was here till mother came home on Friday. Came back Saturday morning stayed till lunch...came back an hour later stayed till dinner...came back 30 mins later and asked if he could have a sleepover because his little cousin was there and he needed the bed. Said no. Child stayed till about 8 pm. Back on Sunday morning (11 am because "he had a late night"). Ate lunch and dinner on Sunday because he said they didn't have anymore food. Left at 9 pm. Back at our place 6:30 am to walk to school with my son at 7:45 am.
This is getting ridiculous.
Now they are arguing about Harry Potter movies and making me quite angry because neither are getting it right because neither saw anything past movie 4....that aside, so happy this a school day.
You need to, as JustJulia said "get some starch in your spine". There is no way I would put up with this, period. You are allowing this and until you tell this child no he and his mother will continue to take advantage.
If the child can walk to your house, you can walk him back to his house. If the door is locked and he has no key, call CPS. Period.
After your recent weekend update I would agree. If it was me I would talk to mom first and TELL her plainly that he is spending too kmuch time at your house. Then the next time walk him back home.
Q: What is your schools policy in student dismisal?
Ours if there are Less then 4th graders, an adult must pick them up @ school, or meet the bus. No adult, bus driver will not let the student off the bus, and they return the child to the school, School will put child into as a Day student in the after school care center, and attempt to contact the parent. If 6p comes around and no parent, the school/after school program will call in CPS.
Since you walk your son to/from school, can you 'pull' him out early a few days this week, so the there is no one to meet/walk the other child home.
I'm amazed that the child spends this much time at your house, lives in the same apartment building, yet you've never simply walked over, knocked on the door, and had a chat with his mother. I agree with what's posted above, walk the kid home when he shows up uninvited, and let his mom know that he is only allowed over at this time or on these days. When he shows up on unspecified days or times, march him right back home. If no one is home, call the police. In instances where the mother does not have your permission to leave her kid with you and just leaves, this is abandonment since technically, her kid is unsupervised.
If you choose to keep allowing this, you probably should stop complaining and just accept it. If it's something you wish to put a stop to, then do it. There is no reason why you should not have talked to this child's mother and told her it needs to stop.
Ok...after weekend update. Child was here till mother came home on Friday. Came back Saturday morning stayed till lunch...came back an hour later stayed till dinner...came back 30 mins later and asked if he could have a sleepover because his little cousin was there and he needed the bed. Said no. Child stayed till about 8 pm. Back on Sunday morning (11 am because "he had a late night"). Ate lunch and dinner on Sunday because he said they didn't have anymore food. Left at 9 pm. Back at our place 6:30 am to walk to school with my son at 7:45 am.
This is getting ridiculous.
Now they are arguing about Harry Potter movies and making me quite angry because neither are getting it right because neither saw anything past movie 4....that aside, so happy this a school day.
Why in an earlier post did you say that you "heard what his mom and her boyfriend do to him", but you haven't explained what you mean. I could give you better advice if you answered that one question. In the meantime, assume that something is seriously wrong. Telling you there was not enough food for him at home is enough reason to call this in.
Q: What is your schools policy in student dismisal?
Ours if there are Less then 4th graders, an adult must pick them up @ school, or meet the bus. No adult, bus driver will not let the student off the bus, and they return the child to the school, School will put child into as a Day student in the after school care center, and attempt to contact the parent. If 6p comes around and no parent, the school/after school program will call in CPS.
Since you walk your son to/from school, can you 'pull' him out early a few days this week, so the there is no one to meet/walk the other child home.
This is an excellent idea if you school has a parent pick-up policy. Although, I suspect that it doesn't otherwise the mother would have had to give written permission for you to walk her son home. Be sure to mention to the teacher "Mrs. Smith, I need to take my DS out early for an appointment at x o'clock so I will not be able to supervise Neighbor Boy on his way home". That way the teacher will be reminded and keep a special lookout for NB otherwise he probably would just walk home on his own (and his mom may blame you if he gets hurt or lost or is locked out of her house ).
Q: What is your schools policy in student dismisal?
Ours if there are Less then 4th graders, an adult must pick them up @ school, or meet the bus. No adult, bus driver will not let the student off the bus, and they return the child to the school, School will put child into as a Day student in the after school care center, and attempt to contact the parent. If 6p comes around and no parent, the school/after school program will call in CPS.
Since you walk your son to/from school, can you 'pull' him out early a few days this week, so the there is no one to meet/walk the other child home.
All this does is avoid the issue a bit longer. I wouldn't want my child to miss any amount of school over it.
The OP needs to knock on the mother's door, and let her know she cannot continue as a babysitter, meal provider, etc.
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