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I'll admit it, I still pay for my 20 year old daughter's cell phone. No real reason other than I just never bothered to take her off our plan when she moved out two years ago. She supports herself in every other way so I don't think it's a very big deal.
Well thank you for that advice. But, we'll decide when to start charging our kids for the expenses we still cover. They're doing quite well, responsibility-wise.
Yes, you sure can decide. Deciding to help your "adult" children become completely self-sufficient would be a better gift to them. You're not always going to be around to fund their lifestyle.
I'll admit it, I still pay for my 20 year old daughter's cell phone. No real reason other than I just never bothered to take her off our plan when she moved out two years ago. She supports herself in every other way so I don't think it's a very big deal.
Test the theory that it's not a big deal. Kindly tell her that you've decided she needs to start paying for her own phone plan... ;-)
It's sad that all you see is a monetary transaction.
Cell phone service can be a practical gift. If the parents can afford it...why can't they gift their child?
No, I see it as helping one's adult child become 100% self sufficient. Gift a child at Christmas or his/her birthday so they don't see daddy and mommy as a maintainer of their lifestyle.
I can see piggy backing your kids AAA membership with yours. Especially for a young woman on her own. But a cell phone, really?
You realize that your adult kids aren't putting the saved money away for a rainy day? They are spending it on lattes, pedicures, alcohol, etc.
You would be better of paying for their home phone - seriously. What 21 year old really needs a cell phone. Believe me, if you weren't paying for theirs, I'm sure they would find a way to get their own.
You are right on on all counts, MissNM! Adult children will grow up when they have to. It's the parents who can't allow that.
I can see piggy backing your kids AAA membership with yours. Especially for a young woman on her own. But a cell phone, really?
You realize that your adult kids aren't putting the saved money away for a rainy day? They are spending it on lattes, pedicures, alcohol, etc.
You would be better of paying for their home phone - seriously. What 21 year old really needs a cell phone. Believe me, if you weren't paying for theirs, I'm sure they would find a way to get their own.
You are right on re adult children not saving money but spending it on manipedi's, latte's, alcohol, etc., MissNM! Parents aren't teaching their children to prepared for adulthood! Adult children will grow up when they have to. It's the parents who can't allow that.
My mom's deal was she would pay for it until secured a full time teaching job
I started paying it before that though, when I got engaged, because my husband had a well-paying job(I teach art and had a tough time in the past finding a district with an art opening, so my mother has always been willing to help when she can if I need it).
My husband and I are still part his mother's family plan, because its cheaper then just the two of us having a plan and cheaper for his mom and his sister, we just pay our part each month.
Yes, you sure can decide. Deciding to help your "adult" children become completely self-sufficient would be a better gift to them. You're not always going to be around to fund their lifestyle.
Says who? You? My sons are well on their way to being completely self-sufficient. We have absolutely no reason to cut all financing off except the opinion of a stranger on the internet.
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Originally Posted by Ridiculouss
You are right on on all counts, MissNM! Adult children will grow up when they have to. It's the parents who can't allow that.
Umm, no. Adult children will grow up they have the education and financial where-with-all to do so, not when they hit a discretionary age. Our youngest was just accepted into the PhD program of his dreams. The stipend will cover his room, board and little more. We are willing and able to subsidize his expenses to allow him to live his dream.
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