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In that case you described.. yes, it's inappropriate.
I'd be VERY cautious of any man touching my kid that I didn't know. I'm a mom myself and there has been a rare guy that tries to talk to my kid and get touchy/playful with them - all the while ignoring me like I wasn't even standing there. That sets off MAJOR red flags and I quickly get my kid away from people like that.
On the flip side: I've also had men interested in ME, paying great attention to me, flirting, etc. And they realized I had a child so they acknowledge them and make a bit of small talk or "hey kiddo.. how's it going? Are you having fun?" and then turn back to focusing on me again. There's nothing wrong with that scenario.
Parents though... we can tell the difference between pedos and sincerely genuine good guys who are just being polite to our kid(s) because they're with us.
In that case you described.. yes, it's inappropriate.
I'd be VERY cautious of any man touching my kid that I didn't know. I'm a mom myself and there has been a rare guy that tries to talk to my kid and get touchy/playful with them - all the while ignoring me like I wasn't even standing there. That sets off MAJOR red flags and I quickly get my kid away from people like that.
On the flip side: I've also had men interested in ME, paying great attention to me, flirting, etc. And they realized I had a child so they acknowledge them and make a bit of small talk or "hey kiddo.. how's it going? Are you having fun?" and then turn back to focusing on me again. There's nothing wrong with that scenario.
Parents though... we can tell the difference between pedos and sincerely genuine good guys who are just being polite to our kid(s) because they're with us.
Just saying that I disagree about 100% with the bolded. The vast majority of pedophiles are people known to the victims--relatives, clergy people and others in trusted positions. Statistically speaking, most parents have much less to fear from a stranger in the grocery line tickling a baby's toes than from Uncle Bob or the youth minister at their church.
If you live in South Texas, or someplace with a similar culture, and praise a child, sometimes you are also expected to touch the child, to ward off the Evil Eye.
Where I live, if I remark that a baby or young child is cute, I give a quick touch to a foot or top of the head because it is often expected. Even if the parent isn't superstitious, most people around here understand the custom.
Hedgehog Mom, if you're in San Antonio and people are wanting to touch your children, this is probably why.
My kids are hispanic and we live in heavily hispanic community. That is why my kids were touched a lot, I think. Hugged, picked up, kissed, patted, etc. It wasn't really an issue until they were older and it bothered them. Well my daughter wouldn't participate ever because she is shy, so people mostly left her alone.
Just saying that I disagree about 100% with the bolded. The vast majority of pedophiles are people known to the victims--relatives, clergy people and others in trusted positions. Statistically speaking, most parents have much less to fear from a stranger in the grocery line tickling a baby's toes than from Uncle Bob or the youth minister at their church.
Alright -- let me rephrase that. Any parents with 2 squirts of common sense would know the difference. I watch EVERYONE around mine. Even family members if they get too feely or mention they want to have a sleepover with them or take them "camping" or something alone with my child.
I rarely let any man I'm dating meet my child until we've been dating for 6+ months and thoroughly screened by me either. Partly to protect; partly because I prefer to keep my dating life and my family life separate. I'm also highly aware in public places about who's watching or getting too close to my kid.
I've been around.. I know the difference very well.
You want to "tickle her nose"?!? Thereby introducing all those germy things you've just touched (door handles, cart handles, food items others have touched and put back, your own nose) to her brand new immune system and possibly get her sick? No. Just no.
I could just sneeze or cough on the baby?
So that way -- I'm not touching the kid but certainly spreading my germs to it with an aerosol spray of viruses.
Would that make you happier?
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