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So? Most of us aren't exactly decrepit at 60. Kids keep you young. I didn't have kids in my 40s but the one I had when my other kids were teenagers was the one I enjoyed the most. We had more money, more confidence in our ability to parent, more time to spend with him. I sort of wish I had had another one right after him, because he was almost like an only child. I had a fear of rocking the boat, so we stopped with him.
I always agreed with a character in one of Stephen King's books who said kids dragged parents into old age, kicking and screaming the whole way.
For all those who think its stupid with all of their brilliant reasons, it could be argues that its just as stupid to have kids below 30 then. I preferred to go to the beach, travel, and have fun.
I had a kid at 42, and when I hang around the other dads, I don't feel one bit out of place. Some of them had a kid older also, but quite frankly- have you seen the world lately? A lot of these 30 some year olds look like crap.
For all those who think its stupid with all of their brilliant reasons, it could be argues that its just as stupid to have kids below 30 then. I preferred to go to the beach, travel, and have fun.
I had a kid at 42, and when I hang around the other dads, I don't feel one bit out of place. Some of them had a kid older also, but quite frankly- have you seen the world lately? A lot of these 30 some year olds look like crap.
Did you start over or is this your first child? It makes a difference!
Nothing like your parents looking like old grandparents when you have kids in your 40's.
Mae
I was 40 when my parents had me; but they were a very young and active, 40 and my mother was remarkably 'well preserved' as my friends used to say.
My father was a very popular school teacher at the local high school and I was never ONCE embarrassed by their age. And I was a sensitive kid when I was young.
I think that hanging out with younger parents (like they had to do for me) kept them younger in spirit and in body.
I had my last child at 40. There was a sizable age gap between the last one and our older kids. I loved all the stages of childhood, so for us it was wonderful to do it all one last time. It's such a personal decision, I certainly have friends who thought I was crazy. Their dreams involved an empty nest by 45 or 50. Mine did not.
I had my 3rd child at age 41; I'm 47 now. My first 2 kids were also at "advanced maternal age" though (35 & 38) so it wasn't really a big deal for us. My older kids were 6 & 3.5 when he was born.
I'm glad I had him, and don't really feel like an old mom, until I go hang out at a kindergarten event and realize a lot of the parents could be my own children. Doesn't particularly bother me, though. I'm at a good place in my life, enjoy spending time with my kids, and overall am pretty happy and comfortable with how things are working out.
I don't want any more, although that's more about finances and being concerned about my husband's health (a condition that came up after #3 was born) than anything else.
I also don't care that I'll be almost 60 when he graduates from high school. So what? My parents are almost 70 and they're both physically very active.
I think it's easier to be an older parent than it once was. More people are doing it, and we know more about how to stay healthy longer.
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