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Blanket accusations on either side are no good. Some kids respond to spankings. Some kids don't.
Find what works.
And there are many kids who were spanked who love their parents to this day, and give whatever support they need as they grow older.
This perfectly sums it up for me. My child does well without spankings, but my brother and I, as children, got them and we don't resent our parents. As for the OP's question I still think 9 months is too young; just a baby. Try redirecting or the light tap on the hand with a firm 'no.' I my mother told me we were good babies/toddlers so my brother and I didn't get spanked until we started acting up around ages 6 or 7.
Well the OP's 9-month-old is now 2 years 9 months, since the OP asked all of this in 2009. Also, the OP never posted on CD after their last post in this very thread, 2 years ago. I'm guessing she no longer cares what anyone here thinks about her giving her baby a tap on the hand or upper thigh to divert their attention away from whatever was making them grouchy (which was what the OP was asking about in the first place).
You're the type of parent that a child grows up to resent, and who will leave you to rot in a dingy nursing home when you start needing your diaper changed and drool wiped off your chin.
Good luck with that, let us know how it goes for you.
You know my mom beat the daylights out of me when I was growing up. I mean throwing things and punching. You name it, she did it. And in all honestly I will do anything for her, including changing her diapers . So that statement is not true.
One other thing to note is that I pop my daughter often as it stands now. Much more often then my wife. But you know what? When it is time to have fun or pick her favorite she is, without hesitation, by my side. There is so much more to a relationship then just dicipline. She knows why she is getting popped or spanked and gets over it within time. But she remembers that spanking though.
I think a little smack is OK from the time they start to push the boundaries. Kids learn trough all senses and touch is one of them. It certainly happens when they startto toddle and they open kitchen cupboards.
I do not think they need to be old enough to speak. You do not need to explain. But you do need to do it right there and then. You can hardly say to a non speaking baby "wait till we get home".
Now I do not think that at 1yo that one should spank so hard that one leaves a bruise. I see people getting into a goode ole argument on that one. Redness OK. Bruising hmmm. I know a lot of stinging can happen without bruising.
The rest of the time in training them I would use the phrase "this behavior is unacceptable" which always worked. Kids want your approval.
If this worked - Goodness were you lucky in the genes lottery or what.
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. So that statement is not true.
