Bolting for the burbs (houses, neighborhood, buy)

[frankgn87]

A great article in our local magazine that explains exactly why we left Philly for South Jersey.. Read it. It sums up nicely the reason we moved here so that many of you who can't quite grasp what I have been talking about for a long time here may be able to understand it.


Bolting for the

[Charlestondata]

Originally Posted by frankgn87

A great article in our local magazine that explains exactly why we left Philly for South Jersey.. Read it. It sums up nicely the reason we moved here so that many of you who can't quite grasp what I have been talking about for a long time here may be able to understand it.


Bolting for the

I'm sick up keeping up a yard. That sounds like some feel-good journalism. I would love to sit down in my yard and have neighbors five feet away.

This paragraph from the article is telling. To me it sounds like they believe if they keep telling themselves they prefer what they have now to what they had, they'll start believing it.

Lomba agrees that abandoning the rowhouse mentality took time. In his old neighborhood, there were always neighbors sitting out on the stoop, chatting and socializing. “In South Jersey, it’s more secluded. Even though there’s people in the houses, people don’t hang out,” he says.

And throughout the article, it keeps coming back to the schools, so in effect what I see is that people with children are moving out of the city because of the perception of better schools and trying to convince themselves that other aspects of suburban life are as desirable as the schools. I don't buy it. At the end of the article, Mr. Lomba knows where he really wants to be, outside of wanting to be where the kids are, and they'll probably move into the city.

[mancat100]

I love the city, but if I had school age children there's a high likelihood I'd move to the burbs. Great school districts with a lot less drama.

Other than that, it's just lifestyle preference.

[maf763]

Originally Posted by frankgn87

A great article in our local magazine that explains exactly why we left Philly for South Jersey.. Read it. It sums up nicely the reason we moved here so that many of you who can't quite grasp what I have been talking about for a long time here may be able to understand it.


Bolting for the

You make it sound like people who don't agree with you don't understand. People make choices based on what's best for them, and what's best for them may not be the same as what's best for you. You have a serious need to get over yourself. Other people aren't so stupid that this little fluffy article will be the thing to straighten them out.

[frankgn87]

Originally Posted by maf763

You make it sound like people who don't agree with you don't understand. People make choices based on what's best for them, and what's best for them may not be the same as what's best for you. You have a serious need to get over yourself. Other people aren't so stupid that this little fluffy article will be the thing to straighten them out.

You would be surprised.. Most just don't get it.. Its not about getting over myself, its about a better life for my family. That's not about me genus


You obviously *don't* get it

This is the winning quotes are..

“Everything is just easier in New Jersey. It’s nice to have parking spaces, to have a driveway, to have a bigger house, to have a little more of a sense of security than we had in the city,” Lomba says. “In the city, there’s an underlying sense that anything could happen at any time, which we don’t feel here.”

“On a beautiful day like today, being able to go sit outside in the yard with my husband and have a cup of coffee, it’s nice and quiet. Even though my neighbors aren’t that far away, it feels like you’re alone. With the trees, it’s slightly secluded, as opposed to in the city, there’s everybody everywhere. You sit down in the yard and 5 feet away is somebody else’s house.”

[phillies2011]

Originally Posted by frankgn87

“In the city, there’s an underlying sense that anything could happen at any time, which we don’t feel here.”

As opposed to living in the burbs of New Jersey in which there is the underlying sense that nothing will ever happen.

[Charlestondata]

[quote=frankgn87;29940374]You would be surprised.. Most just don't get it.. Its not about getting over myself, its about a better life for my family. That's not about me genus


“In the city, there’s an underlying sense that anything could happen at any time, which we don’t feel here.”

Census data show that the population that produces the most thugs (the poor and disenfranchised) is migrating to the burbs, and most of the crazies who commit mass murder do it in the burbs.

[Aimewitue]

Originally Posted by frankgn87

You would be surprised.. Most just don't get it.. Its not about getting over myself, its about a better life for my family. That's not about me genus


You obviously *don't* get it

This is the winning quotes are..

“Everything is just easier in New Jersey. It’s nice to have parking spaces, to have a driveway, to have a bigger house, to have a little more of a sense of security than we had in the city,” Lomba says. “In the city, there’s an underlying sense that anything could happen at any time, which we don’t feel here.”

“On a beautiful day like today, being able to go sit outside in the yard with my husband and have a cup of coffee, it’s nice and quiet. Even though my neighbors aren’t that far away, it feels like you’re alone. With the trees, it’s slightly secluded, as opposed to in the city, there’s everybody everywhere. You sit down in the yard and 5 feet away is somebody else’s house.”

Bigger yard and more trees , more costly to maintain and more time doing yard work when i could be doing other things.

Its all a lifestyle preference some people dont want a big yard or a driveway. Or even a longer commute to the city if you work in the city.

Some people actually like talking to other neighbors. Maybe some people aren't afraid of other people.

Different Lifestyles for Different people.

[Gerania]

Originally Posted by maf763

You make it sound like people who don't agree with you don't understand. People make choices based on what's best for them, and what's best for them may not be the same as what's best for you. You have a serious need to get over yourself. Other people aren't so stupid that this little fluffy article will be the thing to straighten them out.

Sometimes it sounds as though people don't understand.

[maf763]

Originally Posted by frankgn87

You would be surprised.. Most just don't get it.. Its not about getting over myself, its about a better life for my family. That's not about me genus


You obviously *don't* get it

This is the winning quotes are..

“Everything is just easier in New Jersey. It’s nice to have parking spaces, to have a driveway, to have a bigger house, to have a little more of a sense of security than we had in the city,” Lomba says. “In the city, there’s an underlying sense that anything could happen at any time, which we don’t feel here.”

“On a beautiful day like today, being able to go sit outside in the yard with my husband and have a cup of coffee, it’s nice and quiet. Even though my neighbors aren’t that far away, it feels like you’re alone. With the trees, it’s slightly secluded, as opposed to in the city, there’s everybody everywhere. You sit down in the yard and 5 feet away is somebody else’s house.”

You make a decision for your family. Other people make decisions for themselves and their families, and for many that decision is to live in the city. You think they are stupid for making that decision, indicating an overinflated sense of yourself. You really seem to think you know best for others.

I live in the suburbs myself (Montco). I have those same things mentioned in your quotes - parking, trees, relative quiet. I grew up in the city and we are looking to move back there in the next year or two. It's a good decision for me. Moving to the burbs has been good for you. Living in Center City has been good for others. Simple.

I'm not the one who doesn't get it, as I'm not the one looking down on others for their decisions.

Oh, and if you want to try to be insulting again, it's g-e-n-i-u-s, unless you meant to call me 'A grouping of organisms having common characteristics distinct from those of other such groupings'.