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I understand. My parents gave me a "white girl" name for this reason. Whereas, my cousin who has a somewhat common name, where you can definitely tell that she is black.
There was a guy who was named Tyrone Anthony Something (obviously not his real last name). He wasn't getting call backs with "Tyrone A. Something" on his resume, so he changed it to "T. Anthony Something" and received 3 phone calls.
Yep, poor Keisha/Kylie is going to get the message eventually when she realizes that it won't make a difference. Changing who you are and giving up your freedoms to make other folks feel comfortable with you never works. An a-hole is going to a-hole regardless. Instead of making fun of her name they will just find another thing to pick on.
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I have experienced this as well.
People always tell me "you sound different on the phone." When I show up. I kind of like having the name I do an having what I call an "excellent" phone voice. I don't know if it (my name) has given me any benefits in the job market, but I remember reading about a lady who changed the name on her resume and marked herself as "white" on monster.com and how she got a ton of call backs after she had been trying to get a job for months using her "black" name. That person didn't show up for the interviews. I would have and if they wouldn't have interviewed me I would have sued them because I'm just like that and wouldn't take that mess.
And like another poster mentioned, I don't even consider Keisha a "black name." I knew a white "Kisha" growing up, pronounced the same. I knew 2 white Chante's (one was spelled differently, but pronounced Shan-Tay). The most popular names in my era were Jennifer and Heather and I knew a ton of black and white Jenny's and Heather's. I was so happy I was not one of them. Amanda and Amber were popular too.
All of my brothers and sisters have rather traditional names due to being named after family members. FWIW, my grandmother's name was Florence and she hated it, she was named after her grandmother. I considered naming my daughter Florence, but didn't because my grandmother hated it so much lol. I know a lady now in her 60s who is named "Mamie" and she really hates it. She was named after her grandmother and considers it "an old lady's name." LOL even though she is nearly 70 years old.
Try again please. Certain names DO hold people back in life; why cripple those people when a good "anglo" name in the US is def better? Mexico: giving even a Mexican white kid there anything but a Spanish 1st name ain't smart.
It's attitudes like this that hold people back, not names. "anglo names?" What do you think that means?
It means the only acceptable names are names like: Becky...Sue...Jim...Bob etc. If you don't have a name like that then people have the RIGHT to discriminate against you because you know Anglo names and Anglo people are naturally superior to everyone else on the planet.
That's what I got out of that post.
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It's attitudes like this that hold people back, not names. "anglo names?" What do you think that means?
Well my son doesn't have an anglo names, but I am very proud that he shares his name with thousands of men, and some women, from here to asia and africa. I would be heart broker if he changed it.
I have a buddy that moved to Kansas City, he has a white wife and 3 biracial kids. He has told me at least two occasions of outright racism directed to him and/or his wife. Once they were out to eat, he got up to use the restroom and two white ladies went over to his wife. They proceeded to ask how she reproduced with a black guy and other offensive things. I think she was simply stunned into silence.
The other incident his neighbor went on some N-word rant after some dispute. I'll have to forward this to him. His oldest girl is starting school and they are deeply concerned about school quality. Since although the area they live in is diverse the quality of schools are low. They're thinking of moving to whiter area but they're concerned about these types of incidents.
Personally I think they should move back East, Kansas City doesn't sound like a great place to live for Black people.
I have a buddy that moved to Kansas City, he has a white wife and 3 biracial kids. He has told me at least two occasions of outright racism directed to him and/or his wife. Once they were out to eat, he got up to use the restroom and two white ladies went over to his wife. They proceeded to ask how she reproduced with a black guy and other offensive things. I think she was simply stunned into silence.
The other incident his neighbor went on some N-word rant after some dispute. I'll have to forward this to him. His oldest girl is starting school and they are deeply concerned about school quality. Since although the area they live in is diverse the quality of schools are low. They're thinking of moving to whiter area but they're concerned about these types of incidents.
Personally I think they should move back East, Kansas City doesn't sound like a great place to live for Black people.
Edward A, is that really you? Lol. J/k Your friend's wife is a better one than my friends with biracial kids. Somebody would have gotten an azz whippin. Society will be a better place when people learn to mind their own business.
Sad-she should own the name proudly at this point, even though I'm not a fan of either name.
How is Kylie any better? I actually prefer Keisha.
My Mom actually has a weird thing about "made up names" and "fluff names" like Kylie/Ashley/Heather, even though all names were "made up" at one point, so it's pretty ridiculous to think like that.
I'll probably name my kids traditionally Irish names-Siobhan/Sheila/Aiden/Sean/Ciaran, etc. whether they are bi-racial or not.
I blame her mother. I would never raise my child in an area where they would be one of the few of their racial kind. I feel sorry for this young woman, she'll likely have many issues. Keisha is a very common name, there is nothing weird or bad about it.
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