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Why is it that when a gay man or lesbian thanks their partner, it is expressing who they have sex with, yet a straight man or woman thanks their wife or husband and it is not? People just have an issue with gays or lesbians being out of the closet, that is their hang ups, not the gays and lesbians. If someone sees my wedding ring, they ask if I am married, am I supposed to lie and say no, or that I have a wife and not a husband? Saying that my spouse is male, does not tell everyone that we have sex
I know a gay couple that has been together long term and they don't have sex.
And why do people define themselves by their sexual preference?
I wonder why too that way. Even in today society in 2014 I find people that define themselves by sexual preference to be strange.
Plus I don't understand why gays and lesbians out there need to come out to everyone. Not everyone needs to know, except for the very ones most affected by it. Saying your gay to everyone is similar to saying to everyone (If you are a straight male and into blonde woman) stating you are into blonde women.
I wonder why too that way. Even in today society in 2014 I find people that define themselves by sexual preference to be strange.
Plus I don't understand why gays and lesbians out there need to come out to everyone. Not everyone needs to know, except for the very ones most affected by it. Saying your gay to everyone is similar to saying to everyone (If you are a straight male and into blonde woman) stating you are into blonde women.
Its funny, a gay person has never come out to me. Does this happen to you frequently with strangers?
The gay people I've met didn't hide the fact, nor did they explicitly state it. Is that ok for you?
Seriously, which gays and lesbians are you referring to?
I wonder why too that way. Even in today society in 2014 I find people that define themselves by sexual preference to be strange.
Plus I don't understand why gays and lesbians out there need to come out to everyone. Not everyone needs to know, except for the very ones most affected by it. Saying your gay to everyone is similar to saying to everyone (If you are a straight male and into blonde woman) stating you are into blonde women.
So if a new work colleague says to a lesbian who is in a long term relationship with her female partner:
"Are you married or have a boyfriend? What's his name?"
Should she:
1. Lie and pretend she is single or that her partner is a man.
2. Be rude and just ignore the question or say 'none of your business'.
3. Say "My partner's name is Susan".
That is the most common way someone 'comes out' - when someone asks them if they are married or have a boyfriend/girlfriend/family etc and they mention their partner's name. How is this 'defining themselves by their sexual preference' any more than it would be for a straight person to mention their partner's name?
So if a new work colleague says to a lesbian who is in a long term relationship with her female partner:
"Are you married or have a boyfriend? What's his name?"
Should she:
1. Lie and pretend she is single or that her partner is a man.
2. Be rude and just ignore the question or say 'none of your business'.
3. Say "My partner's name is Susan".
That is the most common way someone 'comes out' - when someone asks them if they are married or have a boyfriend/girlfriend/family etc and they mention their partner's name. How is this 'defining themselves by their sexual preference' any more than it would be for a straight person to mention their partner's name?
Exactly. It's boiled down to "heterosexual privilege," which I do not use in any way to attack.
Straight people are so used to straight imagery, topics, depictions, that they don't or cannot fathom how "in your face" their sexuality is to someone who is not like them.
EVERYTHING revolves around sexuality at its core. If you're a "family man," the image is that you have a wife and kids. If you're a "mom" typically people will just assume you're a straight woman with child(ren).
The pervasive in your face sex, heterosexual relationships on TVS and movies, etc. means that people will actually notice and pay more attention to things that are not what is normally expected or seen or common place (in most places in the country with notable exceptions, of course).
It's just like interracial marriage. MOST couples are still same-race. However, people will more readily pick out and notice an interracial couple in a sea of same-race couples, especially if they have some issue with it positive or negative.
I could care less. I didn't care to hear about Bill Clinton's shenanigans and he is straight. I really don't care to hear about a gay person's sex life either.
I know a gay couple that has been together long term and they don't have sex.
My spouse and I have been together for 35 years now and he is 15 years my senior and we no longer have sex. I know many straight couples that no longer have sex, but stay married.
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