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View Poll Results: Should women be allowed to legally revoke sexual consent during sex that began consensual?
Yes, women should be allowed to. 102 80.95%
No, once woman consents, the man should be able to keep on going until he's finished 24 19.05%
Voters: 126. You may not vote on this poll

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Old 06-23-2017, 02:10 PM
 
Location: London
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While it is rape to continue after consent has been revoked, how would you prove it? It would be nearly impossible to persecute someone in court because it's all he said, she said.
That's true, and unfortunately the onus is going to have to be on the rape victim to prove it, which is realistically going to be very difficult.

However, provided that the victim has the proof somehow, there should be no reason the perp shouldn't be prosecuted.
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Old 06-23-2017, 02:14 PM
 
Location: Honolulu
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Okay... but, let's say you know this about your wife and this is how you two communicate.

And, you begin to have sex and she seems to be fine with it and she's actively involved, then she suddenly says "please stop!"

Do you just keep right at it, or do you actually stop and make sure she's okay?

Because I am going to assume you care for her and would do the latter.
Of course I would stop. But it has never happened because I would not proceed further if she really does not want it due to fatigue or having period.

Why would girl ask to stop in the middle of it? Maybe the guy has bad breath or there is not enough foreplay which causes her pain.
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Old 06-23-2017, 02:16 PM
 
Location: Stasis
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The losers who voted no should just get a blow up doll.
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Old 06-23-2017, 02:17 PM
 
Location: Unperson Everyman Land
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While it is rape to continue after consent has been revoked, how would you prove it? It would be nearly impossible to persecute someone in court because it's all he said, she said.




"To continue" doesn't really define anything.


What is the legal standard for withdrawing consent?


Verbal?


If so, is verbal consent all that is needed to legally green-light sexual intercourse?


Lots of gray areas here.


If he says, "I don't want to do this anymore" but she wraps her legs around his ***, did she just rape her sex partner?


What is he says, "I'm not sure I want to do this", and he's intoxicated but she starts licking his ****, is that rape?


How about if he's drunk and she's on top?
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Old 06-23-2017, 02:20 PM
 
Location: My House
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Of course I would stop. But it has never happened because I would not proceed further if she really does not want it due to fatigue or having period.

Why would girl ask to stop in the middle of it? Maybe the guy has bad breath or there is not enough foreplay which causes her pain.
Usually due to pain or something similar.

Not many women start having sex thinking they want to, then just decide they don't want to anymore when things are otherwise nice.
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Old 06-23-2017, 02:21 PM
 
Location: My House
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"To continue" doesn't really define anything.


What is the legal standard for withdrawing consent?


Verbal?


If so, is verbal consent all that is needed to legally green-light sexual intercourse?


Lots of gray areas here.


If he says, "I don't want to do this anymore" but she wraps her legs around his ***, did she just rape her sex partner?


What is he says, "I'm not sure I want to do this", and he's intoxicated but she starts licking his ****, is that rape?


How about if he's drunk and she's on top?
Let's ignore the part about alcohol.

If she forces him to ejaculate inside her after he says they need to stop because she's on top and he cannot disengage, then it is rape.

I'm all about equality here. When a partner says "stop?" You stop.
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Old 06-23-2017, 02:25 PM
 
Location: Newport Beach, California
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Sometimes women say "No" and they mean "I want to, but I don't want to admit that." Why? Lots of reasons.

I guess you just have to be a psychic sometimes LOL If you are dating a woman or a man who likes to play games, then well, today is just not your lucky day.

If you are so concerned about the potential rape charge, then no means no, period. There is really nothing you can do. If you believe sexual gratification is the most important thing, then by all means, take the risk because there are all types of people out there.

In college, I dated a really hot guy who was also a Marine. I didn't want to appear to be too desperate, so yes, I have said no several times to him. Plus, my two brothers have always told me to never have sex with a man the first time you saw him. LOL God knows I really wanted to! Did I secretly wish he could've made the first move? Yes.

I have to say that he was always a perfect gentleman and I am not a vindictive unstable woman. I'd never say a guy raped me just for the sake of saying it. I don't understand women who do such a thing.
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Old 06-23-2017, 02:55 PM
 
Location: SE Asia
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No means no, before or during. Control yourselves men. It isn't impossible to just stop.
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Old 06-23-2017, 03:01 PM
 
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Wow! No means STOP! Stop the sex. She does not want to go any further..... For a man to keep "going" feels like rape to me.
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Old 06-23-2017, 03:13 PM
 
Location: Madison, WI
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You consented simply by living here, obviously. It's the price we pay for living in a civilized society. /social contract
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