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I have not written off my 2 and 3 year old.I have been fighting a losing battle in custody and will spare you the details. The mom just wants to raise the kids on her own and she wants me to wait till they are 18 to have anything to do with them. I am sure some of you understand how lawyers charge.The mother of these kids is always on the run and I have to chase after the kids, even retrieving them from another country and, I feel won out.Though we are trying to modify a joint custody that we have,it just seems to me that I am forcing the mom to let me be the dad.I am 100% after sharing and caring for these boys but it's not that natural.Whats funny is,the mom says I am a good dad to friends and relatives,am not sure why she can't make it easier for me to enjoy our kids!
With the older kids,I had them fairly young and when they were about 2 and 3,that relationship ended and I got custody.My parents helped me raise them.I am very greatful but,I did not do it totally on my own or with the kid's mom;she has been nowhere in sight till last month.
Right now,I am trying to get things right in court for my sons.If some day I find a lady wanting a kid genuinely,I think I will give that a chance
Did you get this is a GUY who already has fathered 4 children in two failed relationships, the youngest only 3 and 2 and he wants more kids cause he feels he failed at being a father the first 4 times?????
Maternal fertility is not the issue here.
I was responding to the OP and people in general saying you any have children in your 40s for physical or ethical reasons. Hence the lack of quotation.
I was responding to the OP and people in general saying you any have children in your 40s for physical or ethical reasons. Hence the lack of quotation.
I apologize as there was such a time gap between OP and Ken I thought you were responding to him and not OP. You are right about women in their 40's having kids either naturally or with some medical help.
I'm 45 and want a child. I have a 21 and 24 year old from a previous marriage. Has anyone out there had a child in their 40's? I'd like some imput. I know all about the higher risks for birth defects so no need to mention that. I'd like to hear from those that have gone thru it in their 40's. Thanks!
last child we had was at mamas age of 37...not quite into the 40's though, I think raising this child was easier than the other three....I think that a person is more mellow and easy going when they are older, and therefore possibly a better mother, I guess there's pro and cons, one of the cons being you tire out more easily, and when your kids in elementary school, everyone will think you're the Grannie instead of the mom. But never the less I believe you CAN raise a happy, well adjusted child, no matter what age you are....I wish you good luck.
Ur Nuts and don't know it. See a Dr. and have your thinking checked.
PS: all I read was title thread, and it's only my opinion. I feel it won't hurt ur feelings , hope not
Wondering if this is a joke thread????
I'm 45 and want a child. I have a 21 and 24 year old from a previous marriage. Has anyone out there had a child in their 40's? I'd like some imput. I know all about the higher risks for birth defects so no need to mention that. I'd like to hear from those that have gone thru it in their 40's. Thanks!
No I do not know anyone who has had a healthy child in her 40s - especially mid 40s.
Famous people? YES! BUT they all seem to have twins... This leads me to believe that they used donor eggs multiples are often the result. Jane Seymore, Nancy Grace and Joan Lundon are three celebs who did this. All with twins.
I am older than you are and I am adopting older kids from Ukraine. Older in Ukraine can be 5.
Estonia also has no age restrictions. Babies with medical conditions are always available and age is not an issue.
I'm 45 and want a child. I have a 21 and 24 year old from a previous marriage. Has anyone out there had a child in their 40's? I'd like some imput. I know all about the higher risks for birth defects so no need to mention that. I'd like to hear from those that have gone thru it in their 40's. Thanks!
My sister, mother, and grandmother all had children between 42 and 44. For my sister and grandmother it was their first children. It was my mother's 8th! I am happy to be alive which wouldn't have happened had my father not been born, I love my baby brother who was quite a surprise, and I adore my nephew who we thought may never happen. It didn't seem to effect any one's health negatively - mother or child. I will say my pregnancies appeared to be easier than my sister's. My brother and nephew were/are more spoiled than your average child and I suspect my father was too but really, all is well.
Back in the early 70's my aunt had her seventh child at age 47. No IVF or by any other means other than the natural way. This daughter grew up to have a career as a doctor in the military and is now taking care of her parents who are now in their early 90's. So not all late in life births are tragic.
A friend had her first baby at 42, baby was just fine.
Mum was too...but she'd never had a baby and it was her dream come true.
On a serious note though...are you mad? Babies are all very cute while they just lie around and gurgle, have you really forgotten the projectile diarrhea and the fingers in the light sockets and the tantrums in the toy aisle????
Your 40s is a time when life gets to be about YOU again. If you're looking around for a baby, perhaps something else is missing.
I can think of nothing worse than dealing with a teenager when you should be thinking of retirement.
Isn't that why God invented grandchildren?
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This leads me to believe that they used donor eggs multiples are often the result. Jane Seymore, Nancy Grace and Joan Lundon are three celebs who did this. All with twins.
