Gay lifestyle as an alternative to dealing with Women

[mysticaltyger]

Originally Posted by War Beagle

Sexual abuse sometimes seems to be a trigger for homosexuality (note that I said, sometimes). Assuming that is true in some cases, it certainly wouldn't qualify as a "choice" or "alternative".

I think sexual abuse is more likely to trigger gender identity issues (i.e. wanting a sex change) more than homosexuality. But when it does trigger homosexuality, I think it does so for women a lot more than for men. JMO.

[mysticaltyger]

Originally Posted by sleepless in Bham

IMO I don't think pressure from straight society is the major cause for depression among gay men. I think most of it is self inflicted. The often un reachable expectations some of us put on ourselves will lead to disappointment a lot, and sadly its often media driven. If you listen to the media gay men will....

Come out and find a BF within 24-48 hrs, and this guy will be a Ken doll look alike even though you're just an average looking guy yourself

All other life issues and problems instantly go away just cause.

Wrap your entire life around who you sleep with, and when someone calls you out on that you're instantly offended.

In general, I agree. I think straight men are forced to confront the whole beauty thing a lot sooner than gay men. Women do tend to put the brakes on the dynamic of sleeping around and being obsessed with looks/beauty. When you have a male/male relationship, the worst tendencies prevail. Hopefully, in the future, parents will be able to coach their gay sons about this so that the excesses can be tempered.