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It seems to me like you're doing fine, even, as above, enviable. You're looking for affirmation for living as you see fit and as makes you happy. You need no such affirmation. The fact that you aren't harming or impeding anyone else is all we, as a society, can ask. If you're also content, able to enjoy your time, and financially secure, you're well beyond a lot of people. I'd say you shouldn't be looking for our affirmation, we should be learning from you.
The only problem is you might not being do your health any good and regret it later. Not fun being a 50 or so in nursing home. I'd at least recommend you think health and do what is needed to avoid such as much as possible.
Are you putting SERIOUS money away for retirement and emergencies? as in 20k+ per year? do you have disability insurance? Do you have a significant other? if not, and you get one, be ready to spend that 20k per year on her, and if she's got kids, 50k per year on them. i"m not kidding and I"m not mistaken about either one.
PLenty of union jobs that people THOUGHT were secure have been lost. 10's of millions of them, as a matter of fact, especially in the steel, coal and auto industries. Govt jobs can be lost if shtf, too.
If I were you, I"d take up some hobby that can (eventually) make money for you, like learn defensive shooting or karate (preferably both) so well that you get paid for teaching others.
What does anyone do when they're not working? I grocery shop, I go to home depot, I do errands. I travel. I talk with family and friends (when we can't get together) I live my life just like others do. Most of everyone's daily life is routine. Most people just have OTHERS -- or situations -- or relationships that make demands on their time. And I don't. My time is my own.
It's just that not everyone I know is always free every time that I'm free. And I don't feel the need to fill every minute of my free time....DOING something. I just have SOOOO much free time, that even doing nothing, gets boring. That's all I was musing about.
For example, I'm single no kids. Just try getting together with married friends who have teenagers? They're free only about three or four times a year. Then I have acquaintances who are in relationships -- or married with kids AND ELDERLY parents -- or don't have money to spend. So we get together only a couple of times a year. Most people are busy. And I'm not. I live in the Maryland suburbs of DC, and real close ties are in Philly.
Mostly my job schedule just isn't conducive to spending time with others in my life....so I end up with a lot of time on my hands, and I don't have a hobby right now -- other than City Data and TV....both of which I REALLY enjoy. Before people think I'm only seeking out solitary interested it's not that at all. I go shopping with friends when ever we can manage to get together. I travel about twice a year.
To the person who said grow a plant: I have 18 house plants! As I said, I guess I'm just between interests at the moment. When spring comes I'm going to totally revamp my container garden. I've been planning that for months. So I DO have things to do. I just don't have to do anything I don't WANT to do.
I've THOUGHT about volunteering. But don't want a commitment. As I said I need to find something or some place that can take my availability on my terms. I LIKE my free time being my own. Life is good I'm just bored a lot of time. That's all. That's NOT mutually exclusive.
If it's being able to make ends meet without creating a million $ idea, I'd say that's fine. If it's living the lifestyle of an Eloi, then our norms and code of social responsibility would have something to say about that.
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Rdflk, I give you my blessing to live your life as you want.
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